Category Archives: privacy

cohousing/intentional communities may not be a perfect place to raise children

I love reading old Communities magazines.  It comes with a membership of Foundations of Intentional Communities.  It seems like the old adage – the more things change, the more stay the same. Same issues then as now with communities. In … Continue reading

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Fences make good neighbors – boundaries are good, even in cohousing, intentional communities.

This article caught my attention. I recently did work interviews and like it when they say they are a family. I hadn’t thought of the flip side – it could be an abuse of your time and boundaries. Obviously, people … Continue reading

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You gotta have friends – but they might not be in cohousing

Like I said in a previous post, friendship is not guaranteed at cohousing. Of course everyone will be friendly and you’ll know each other’s name. If It’s a small cohousing – like less than 13 units, I’ve heard that cliques … Continue reading

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Safe in a gated community and/or cohousing

I visited a cohousing recently and I asked my usual questions. I want to know how it’s gone since forming. They had a rough time for awhile, but a few families moved out, and things have been smooth ever since. … Continue reading

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shame and ashamed

Shame is a horrible feeling and something terrible to put onto someone. Looking back I did feel embarrassed by some front porches. Mine included. Toys and stuff everywhere. I figured we were just living in them and that’s a good … Continue reading

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codependency in cohousing?

I was talking to someone who has lived in cohousing for over 20 years. I asked what do you do about the people with troubling behavior.  People who seem to have something like a personality disorder. I’m not saying it’s … Continue reading

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Don’t tell me what to do with the days of our lives

Wikipedia gives this physiological definition of reactance: Reactance is an unpleasant motivational arousal (reaction) to offers, persons, rules, or regulations that threaten or eliminate specific behavioral freedoms. Reactance occurs when a person feels that someone or something is taking away … Continue reading

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Crazy, Not Insane

I heard about this HBO documentary today and had to check it out. It has many levels and is fascinating. The most disturbing part to me is the link between violence and child abuse. If a child is abused physically, … Continue reading

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Americans on the Move

When I first moved into my house in cohousing I proudly announced it on my social media accounts.  One friend offended me. He said “oh, you Americans, you always move” Or something like that. I was like – I”m not … Continue reading

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Dog Days of Summer

Summer is here – not officially, but the life guards are back so that’s summer to me. Dogs always cause problems in cohousing. Okay, pets, not just dogs. But dogs have teeth.  I heard on TV some celebrity say that … Continue reading

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