Category Archives: privacy

Sweet Privacy

I have some next door neighbors that love privacy. One is super shy so I respect his need for space. We’ve had a few short conversations and I know that he prefers to be alone (doesn’t even come to the … Continue reading

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Guest Blog Post – I’m not the only one!

Whenever I think I just had a “bad experience” as two cohousers have told me, I think of my friend all the way across the country. She moved into a cohousing that is over 10 years old, so mine being … Continue reading

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Sexual Abuse and Cohousing and Intentional Communities

“There is always sexual abuse in Intentional Communities”  One of my former neighbors casually said that repeating what a friend who had grown up in an IC had told him.  My thought was, “Hell No. Not on my watch. And … Continue reading

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Another One Bites the Dust

I keep thinking about the perfect cohousing. The one that lives up to the hype. This will be your last home (and that’s how many people think as they design their houses and communities).  They are almost 10 years old … Continue reading

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transparency = trust

I am not always a fan of his thoughts, but Laird’s Blog on Community and Consensus is one of the few places you can find the truth on community living because he blogs about his time working with all sorts … Continue reading

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Insane in the Membrane

There is something wrong with my brain.  I met someone who knew someone who was moving into cohousing. When they heard that their friend was going to live intimately (ok with their own private spaces) with 26 other families/people they … Continue reading

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Living in cohousing is like being the President

The President has cameras on him 24/7.  Unfortunately I can only write him but someday that’ll change. Even before social media and cell phone cameras, every move was recorded. Whether they fell like President Ford and then Chevy Chase imitated … Continue reading

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Too much privacy can be dangerous

It is a hard line.  What to tell the whole group and what to keep private? When groups are forming and building their cohousing neighborhoods, they are open books. They ask others how they did it and what agreements they … Continue reading

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A breath of fresh air podcast on cohousing

https://www.dw.com/en/co-housing-a-green-alternative-to-the-family-home/av-60173034 This show dives into many aspects of sharing home spaces.  The host, Neil King, interviews Dr. Sally Augustin, an environmental psychologist,on how our brains work.  She says you need a space that is your territory and you can control. … Continue reading

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Love and Loathing in cohousing and intentional communities

I think I have already made my point that cohousing and Intentional Communities are created with utopia in mind but real people inhabit these places with real problems, feelings, and group influence. Same with love.  Some communities openly form a … Continue reading

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