Category Archives: parenting

Guest Blog Post – I’m not the only one!

Posted on May 28, 2022 by CJ

Whenever I think I just had a “bad experience” as two cohousers have told me, I think of my friend all the way across the country. She moved into a cohousing that is over 10 years old, so mine being … Continue reading →

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Sexual Abuse and Cohousing and Intentional Communities

Posted on May 20, 2022 by CJ

“There is always sexual abuse in Intentional Communities”  One of my former neighbors casually said that repeating what a friend who had grown up in an IC had told him.  My thought was, “Hell No. Not on my watch. And … Continue reading →

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The Slap and Cohousing

Posted on May 20, 2022 by CJ

I wrote this months ago way before the Slap that was heard around the world at the Oscars 2022. The Slap is a novel and it was made into a TV series in it’s homeland of Australian and then into … Continue reading →

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transparency = trust

Posted on May 5, 2022 by CJ

I am not always a fan of his thoughts, but Laird’s Blog on Community and Consensus is one of the few places you can find the truth on community living because he blogs about his time working with all sorts … Continue reading →

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Who they really are

Posted on January 17, 2022 by CJ

Reading the communities magazine, someone said how horrified we all are at how we behave in conflict. So true. I’m not happy of all my reactions and actions. But I was shocked by what others did.  When someone shows who … Continue reading →

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Things that go bump in the night

Posted on December 11, 2021 by CJ

I got a thump on my door today – commonly known as a knock.  My shy neighbor wanted to see me. I was shocked. I figured I had bothered him by putting trash bags in the hallway to take away … Continue reading →

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A realistic advertisement for a cohousing home for sale

Posted on November 18, 2021 by CJ

Sometimes I think what happened to me is unique because we were a new forming community and there were some unique issues that came up.  But I have met a few people that had similar experiences, so my hope diminishes.  … Continue reading →

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Where the truth lies – in the comment section

Posted on October 25, 2021 by CJ

It is so hard to find those who have left cohousing or intentional communities. I found some interesting comments to the NYT opinion about how cohousing would cure loneliness (again – that’s always the tag line. This time for motheres) … Continue reading →

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cohousing/intentional communities may not be a perfect place to raise children

Posted on September 24, 2021 by CJ

I love reading old Communities magazines.  It comes with a membership of Foundations of Intentional Communities.  It seems like the old adage – the more things change, the more stay the same. Same issues then as now with communities. In … Continue reading →

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You gotta have friends – but they might not be in cohousing

Posted on September 5, 2021 by CJ

Like I said in a previous post, friendship is not guaranteed at cohousing. Of course everyone will be friendly and you’ll know each other’s name. If It’s a small cohousing – like less than 13 units, I’ve heard that cliques … Continue reading →

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