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Fences make good neighbors – boundaries are good, even in cohousing, intentional communities.

This article caught my attention. I recently did work interviews and like it when they say they are a family. I hadn’t thought of the flip side – it could be an abuse of your time and boundaries. Obviously, people … Continue reading

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You gotta have friends – but they might not be in cohousing

Like I said in a previous post, friendship is not guaranteed at cohousing. Of course everyone will be friendly and you’ll know each other’s name. If It’s a small cohousing – like less than 13 units, I’ve heard that cliques … Continue reading

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If it were easy, we would all move on in a nanosecond

How do you deal with trauma? or stress? For me, it has always been writing. https://marciasirota.medium.com/why-its-absurd-to-tell-someone-to-move-on-from-trauma-58779b6b8290

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Anthony Hopkins is a great actor but someone else is a wise writer

(at least physically at first, it takes longer to move on in your mind emotionally but it gets better)You may have seen the meme with these great words attributed to Sir Anthony. He didn’t write it , but no matter, … Continue reading

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covid is causing conflict in cohousing

I have a lot to say about this but I don’t have the time for now. So, I’ll share an article a cohouser sent to me. It is what we all dream of a community – compassion for people and … Continue reading

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You will choose the Wrong cohousing community

Cohousing is a lot like marriage. A long time commitment to a relationship. This article on marriage can also be said of cohousing. With that said, sometimes it just isn’t going to work out – job change, family changes, life … Continue reading

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How to build a cohousing

I have a few posts on resources. Here are some specific places to look for professionals to help you build you project https://www.cohousing.org/directory/wpbdp_category/pro/ Step by step how most cohos are done: https://www.cohousing.org/create-cohousing/create-it/ some definitions, thanks to the cohousing listserv folks … Continue reading

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Safe in a gated community and/or cohousing

I visited a cohousing recently and I asked my usual questions. I want to know how it’s gone since forming. They had a rough time for awhile, but a few families moved out, and things have been smooth ever since. … Continue reading

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The Dark Side of Cohousing

It happened again. I read an article where cohousing is the fix to everything. No more loneliness. No more children without play dates. Sounds like cohousing cures everything, maybe even cancer! What people don’t think is what if the opposite … Continue reading

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Watch where you step in cohousing

There are things I learned while living in cohousing. One is my fear of conflict. Like most people, I was a little conflict averse but I went in knowing we would have to deal with it to build a strong … Continue reading

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