Category Archives: lonliness or not

Why did I move into and want cohousing in the first place?

Flower asked me why I moved into cohousing in the first place.  I looked at my first posts and realized I never did write that. So, I looked at my notes and found this draft. I will post it now: … Continue reading

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Thankful of many blessings

This Thanksgiving I giveth over with thanks.  I love the idea of Friendsgiving. I have so many friends and relationships that I am truly blessed.  I also have a wonderful family. Like I said, I thought we were dysfunctional but … Continue reading

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Loneliness, not as big a deal as previously thought

I was in the car a lot yesterday and heard NPR’s Best of my Knowledge show on Loneliness.  My ears perked since cohousing is given as the solution.  Yet, the author interviewed made a distinction between loneliness and solitude.  She … Continue reading

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Can men control their hormones? Can I?

Like I  mentioned in love and cohousing/community post,  the happy brain chemicals that light up when you dream of a community utopia feel a lot like the dopamine rush of love. Now I find myself with some frisky men.    … Continue reading

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Love and Loathing in cohousing and intentional communities

I think I have already made my point that cohousing and Intentional Communities are created with utopia in mind but real people inhabit these places with real problems, feelings, and group influence. Same with love.  Some communities openly form a … Continue reading

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Where the truth lies – in the comment section

It is so hard to find those who have left cohousing or intentional communities. I found some interesting comments to the NYT opinion about how cohousing would cure loneliness (again – that’s always the tag line. This time for motheres) … Continue reading

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You gotta have friends – but they might not be in cohousing

Like I said in a previous post, friendship is not guaranteed at cohousing. Of course everyone will be friendly and you’ll know each other’s name. If It’s a small cohousing – like less than 13 units, I’ve heard that cliques … Continue reading

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You will choose the Wrong cohousing community

Cohousing is a lot like marriage. A long time commitment to a relationship. This article on marriage can also be said of cohousing. With that said, sometimes it just isn’t going to work out – job change, family changes, life … Continue reading

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Intentional cohousing community for the after-life

I was watching a documentary on Disney Plus about my favorite ride – the Haunted Mansion. It scared me as a kid so I never forgot it. Apparently, the years it was being built, someone put up a sign – … Continue reading

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Kindness at the End of Life at cohousing

One way I saw my neighbors act in a compassionate way was toward a woman at her last stage of life. Her family was taking care of her but everyone welcomed her to the cohousing community. One family let them … Continue reading

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