Category Archives: group think and cults

Erika Jayne, divorce and cohousing

Posted on September 4, 2021 by CJ

Cohousing is like marriage.  And getting out is like divorce. I have admitted that my guilty pleasure is the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. I swore to give it up but then I realized I lived it.  The women frequently … Continue reading →

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Dreaming of cohousing

Posted on August 31, 2021 by CJ

I had a dream last night about the coho community. Usually that’s some sort of nightmare or closure and sympathy that I desire. This time it was just funny. I wasn’t part of the community but at a birthday party … Continue reading →

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The Dark Side of Cohousing

Posted on July 29, 2021 by CJ

It happened again. I read an article where cohousing is the fix to everything. No more loneliness. No more children without play dates. Sounds like cohousing cures everything, maybe even cancer! What people don’t think is what if the opposite … Continue reading →

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Don’t tell me what to do with the days of our lives

Posted on July 28, 2021 by CJ

Wikipedia gives this physiological definition of reactance: Reactance is an unpleasant motivational arousal (reaction) to offers, persons, rules, or regulations that threaten or eliminate specific behavioral freedoms. Reactance occurs when a person feels that someone or something is taking away … Continue reading →

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The Cooperative Culture Handbook book review

Posted on July 26, 2021 by CJ

I was so excited to get the book The Cooperative Culture Handbook: A social Change Manual to Dismantle Toxic Culture and Build Connection by Yan a Ludwig and Karen Gimnig.  Maybe I”m too jaded and now have a deep mistrust … Continue reading →

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You can’t handle the truth – fascism and cohousing

Posted on July 26, 2021 by CJ

Another book I read this year is Trumpocracy by David Frum.  I know the Trump Era is over, kinda, but I still had a few books I hadn’t read.  What I liked in this book is how he talks about … Continue reading →

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Girlfighting – immature behavior in cohousing

Posted on July 26, 2021 by CJ

I read the book Girlfighting by Lyn Mikel Brown to get an education.  I went through middle school so I remember girl behavior but I hadn’t dealt with it again until moving to cohousing so I wanted to learn more. … Continue reading →

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Like minded people but what if ….?

Posted on July 4, 2021 by CJ

Most people are attracted to intentional communities because they want to live with like minded people. They want shared values. I think that’s possible – with work – make a vision and be specific about your values. However, in cohousing, … Continue reading →

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Snowball OUT of hell

Posted on May 25, 2021 by CJ

I was helping a student a few months ago with George Orwell’s Animal Farm.  I recently went back over my notes and I realized I hadn’t finished the book so I did. Somehow we made it through most and I … Continue reading →

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Matt Damon, cohousing, movies about neighborhoods

Posted on May 24, 2021 by CJ

I’m always on the look out for movies about neighbors and how our country thinks about neighborhoods and communities. Originally it was to hold movie nights.  I did get to host one. Funny Farm with Chevy Chase I thought of … Continue reading →

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