Category Archives: group think and cults

You can’t handle the truth – fascism and cohousing

Another book I read this year is Trumpocracy by David Frum.  I know the Trump Era is over, kinda, but I still had a few books I hadn’t read.  What I liked in this book is how he talks about … Continue reading

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Girlfighting – immature behavior in cohousing

I read the book Girlfighting by Lyn Mikel Brown to get an education.  I went through middle school so I remember girl behavior but I hadn’t dealt with it again until moving to cohousing so I wanted to learn more. … Continue reading

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Like minded people but what if ….?

Most people are attracted to intentional communities because they want to live with like minded people. They want shared values. I think that’s possible – with work – make a vision and be specific about your values. However, in cohousing, … Continue reading

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Snowball OUT of hell

I was helping a student a few months ago with George Orwell’s Animal Farm.  I recently went back over my notes and I realized I hadn’t finished the book so I did. Somehow we made it through most and I … Continue reading

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Matt Damon, cohousing, movies about neighborhoods

I’m always on the look out for movies about neighbors and how our country thinks about neighborhoods and communities. Originally it was to hold movie nights.  I did get to host one. Funny Farm with Chevy Chase I thought of … Continue reading

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Hijackers in cohousing and intentional communities

I think every cohousing community is hijacked by at least one person. It could be someone who demands all the sympathy, attention, or makes all the decisions.  Maybe they have to okay something before it’s on the plenary agenda or … Continue reading

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Roll Over, Bitch

When I was a single, young adult, I had a female dog. She was a beautiful energetic dog with a collie and golden retriever blood and long blond hair.  She was sweet and when she’d meet another dog, she’d just … Continue reading

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I need a hero

Why is it hard to speak up? Why is it hard to protect those vulnerable? I think it is even more difficult in cohousing or intentional communities because you don’t want to be wrong – falsely accuse someone, suspect something … Continue reading

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Peer Pressure

I am so not alone. Many communities have conflict and conflict averse, and sadly, some serious situations that are hard to deal with. But one of the best ways to deal with anything is humor. A new friend from a … Continue reading

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My Jackal Journal

I love NVC – Non Violent Communication. I”m still learning but I listened to it’s founder, Marshall Rosenberg, on youtube this summer and could see the value. He is bonafide (as they say in the movie Brother, Where Art Thou).  … Continue reading

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