Category Archives: group think and cults

Guest Blog Post – I’m not the only one!

Posted on May 28, 2022 by CJ

Whenever I think I just had a “bad experience” as two cohousers have told me, I think of my friend all the way across the country. She moved into a cohousing that is over 10 years old, so mine being … Continue reading →

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Why did I move into and want cohousing in the first place?

Posted on May 7, 2022 by CJ

Flower asked me why I moved into cohousing in the first place.  I looked at my first posts and realized I never did write that. So, I looked at my notes and found this draft. I will post it now: … Continue reading →

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The Buck Stops Nowhere

Posted on March 9, 2022 by CJ

Even if it’s not a big problem, cohousing moves at glacial speed. Everything has to be decided as a group. However, I recently noticed that means they can tell you to f off in a way that shirks their responsibility.  … Continue reading →

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Hard Candy Christmas

Posted on December 25, 2021 by CJ

On the show Friends, Monica makes candy to get to know the  neighbors.  I don’t understand why we don’t try more to get to know our neighbors in general.  They didn’t know her name and called her Candy Lady but … Continue reading →

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Cranky Christmas Neighbors

Posted on December 25, 2021 by CJ

Christmas with the Kranks is a movie which pretty much follows the short story Skipping Christmas by John Grisham. I usually listen to the story on Audible and watch the movie every year but they are pretty close so sometimes, … Continue reading →

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Being right is so wrong

Posted on December 9, 2021 by CJ

I was on a zoom recently with lots of communitarians (cohousers, intentional community residents and wannabes).  One person said that they noticed that people who didn’t fit into cohousing moved out within one year. I asked what made them not … Continue reading →

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Will we all be shamed, Monica Lewinsky?

Posted on December 8, 2021 by CJ

I googled public humiliation. I was trying to see how others dealt with being a scapegoat. I came across a great article written by Monica Lewinsky. She knows a thing or two about this.  I admire her work to stop … Continue reading →

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So this is Christmas, Yoko Ono?

Posted on December 7, 2021 by CJ

Why do so many people hate Yoko Ono? I think it has to do with the Beatles breaking up. Maybe the other band members didn’t like her but I bet there were other reasons than just one of the member’s … Continue reading →

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Halloween Kills – a community perspective movie review

Posted on October 30, 2021 by CJ

A few years ago I tried to watch the original Halloween movie. I liked it as a kid, but now as a grown woman, it was terrifying. Too realistic. Supernatural and monsters are strange but stalkers, too close to what … Continue reading →

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Danger signs to look for in a group and/or intentional communities

Posted on September 20, 2021 by CJ

 On page 170 of Finding Community: how to Join an ecovillage or intentional community by Diana Leafe Christian,, she includes a list of signs a group is disconnected.  Earlier she mentioned that communities go through “flu season” so these are … Continue reading →

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