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Danger signs to look for in a group and/or intentional communities
On page 170 of Finding Community: how to Join an ecovillage or intentional community by Diana Leafe Christian,, she includes a list of signs a group is disconnected. Earlier she mentioned that communities go through “flu season” so these are … Continue reading
talking about your generation – millennials and cohousing
It dawned on me that most people that started cohousing in the US are at least in their late 40s. Most started in the late 90s and early 2000s. Not that new ones aren’t breaking ground every day, in general, … Continue reading
Fences make good neighbors – boundaries are good, even in cohousing, intentional communities.
This article caught my attention. I recently did work interviews and like it when they say they are a family. I hadn’t thought of the flip side – it could be an abuse of your time and boundaries. Obviously, people … Continue reading
You gotta have friends – but they might not be in cohousing
Like I said in a previous post, friendship is not guaranteed at cohousing. Of course everyone will be friendly and you’ll know each other’s name. If It’s a small cohousing – like less than 13 units, I’ve heard that cliques … Continue reading
Erika Jayne, divorce and cohousing
Cohousing is like marriage. And getting out is like divorce. I have admitted that my guilty pleasure is the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. I swore to give it up but then I realized I lived it. The women frequently … Continue reading
Dreaming of cohousing
I had a dream last night about the coho community. Usually that’s some sort of nightmare or closure and sympathy that I desire. This time it was just funny. I wasn’t part of the community but at a birthday party … Continue reading
The Dark Side of Cohousing
It happened again. I read an article where cohousing is the fix to everything. No more loneliness. No more children without play dates. Sounds like cohousing cures everything, maybe even cancer! What people don’t think is what if the opposite … Continue reading
Don’t tell me what to do with the days of our lives
Wikipedia gives this physiological definition of reactance: Reactance is an unpleasant motivational arousal (reaction) to offers, persons, rules, or regulations that threaten or eliminate specific behavioral freedoms. Reactance occurs when a person feels that someone or something is taking away … Continue reading
The Cooperative Culture Handbook book review
I was so excited to get the book The Cooperative Culture Handbook: A social Change Manual to Dismantle Toxic Culture and Build Connection by Yan a Ludwig and Karen Gimnig. Maybe I”m too jaded and now have a deep mistrust … Continue reading
You can’t handle the truth – fascism and cohousing
Another book I read this year is Trumpocracy by David Frum. I know the Trump Era is over, kinda, but I still had a few books I hadn’t read. What I liked in this book is how he talks about … Continue reading
