Category Archives: group think and cults

Back to school

Posted on November 20, 2022 by CJ

I read another cohousing article recently where one woman mentioned she had a friend who lived in a retirement community. She pointed out how much this friend hated it there and felt like they returned to high school with the … Continue reading →

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Another Day Another Cult

Posted on November 9, 2022 by CJ

This week two movies about cults (or cult like) were released. I was so happy to see the mysterious “Don’t Worry Darling”.  I could tell it was creepy and the town was holding a secret from the promotions.  It started … Continue reading →

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Book Review – Escaping Utopia and similarities to cohousing

Posted on October 7, 2022 by CJ

ESCAPING UTOPIA: Growing up in a cult, getting out, and starting over. The book is based on cult/toxic group research and contains many Interviews of cult survivors who were brought into the cult as children (or born in). The first … Continue reading →

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Not just the facts, m’am

Posted on September 14, 2022 by CJ

My son has autism so sometimes he feels like someone has broken a rule. That also leads him to look to report the rule breaker. The other night, he called the police.  The police came and were very kind to … Continue reading →

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Olivia Newton-John is my muse

Posted on September 11, 2022 by CJ

It’s been a few weeks since she passed, but I am still trying to figure it out.  Olivia Newton-John is a big part of my life. At age seven, I saw Grease in the theater. From the ad on the … Continue reading →

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Why you shouldn’t tell someone to just move on

Posted on August 21, 2022 by CJ

I had never had narcissistic abuse until I moved into cohousing. There was a big one who controlled the whole narrative and changed the focus from her family’s appalling behavior to my attempt of helping them and the community. So, … Continue reading →

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The Anarchists on HBO and The Deep End on Hulu

Posted on August 16, 2022 by CJ

Sometimes shows can capture what life is like living in a forming community. HBO has a documentary called The Anarchists about a group of, you guessed it, anarchists organizing a conference and living in Acapulco, Mexico.  This show demonstrates exactly … Continue reading →

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Real humans

Posted on July 17, 2022 by CJ

I saw the above quote yesterday on Facebook. I cant’ stop thinking about it.  If 98% of a cohousing community ignores you what does that say about them?  I tried talking to each person about what happened and my choices … Continue reading →

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The C word

Posted on June 26, 2022 by CJ

I’ve been traveling a lot the past few months.  I’ve seen old friends and made new ones.  I met up with a friend, Claire, who visited me a few years ago. She had remembered, but I had forgotten, that we … Continue reading →

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Scapegoat in the Family

Posted on June 1, 2022 by CJ

One of my pet peeves is when people in cohousing call it a family. It isn’t but if you want to go there you have to be honest. There are all types of families. Some are the Brady Bunch and … Continue reading →

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