Category Archives: group think and cults

Hard Candy Christmas

On the show Friends, Monica makes candy to get to know the  neighbors.  I don’t understand why we don’t try more to get to know our neighbors in general.  They didn’t know her name and called her Candy Lady but … Continue reading

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Cranky Christmas Neighbors

Christmas with the Kranks is a movie which pretty much follows the short story Skipping Christmas by John Grisham. I usually listen to the story on Audible and watch the movie every year but they are pretty close so sometimes, … Continue reading

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Being right is so wrong

I was on a zoom recently with lots of communitarians (cohousers, intentional community residents and wannabes).  One person said that they noticed that people who didn’t fit into cohousing moved out within one year. I asked what made them not … Continue reading

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Will we all be shamed, Monica Lewinsky?

I googled public humiliation. I was trying to see how others dealt with being a scapegoat. I came across a great article written by Monica Lewinsky. She knows a thing or two about this.  I admire her work to stop … Continue reading

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So this is Christmas, Yoko Ono?

Why do so many people hate Yoko Ono? I think it has to do with the Beatles breaking up. Maybe the other band members didn’t like her but I bet there were other reasons than just one of the member’s … Continue reading

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Halloween Kills – a community perspective movie review

A few years ago I tried to watch the original Halloween movie. I liked it as a kid, but now as a grown woman, it was terrifying. Too realistic. Supernatural and monsters are strange but stalkers, too close to what … Continue reading

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Danger signs to look for in a group and/or intentional communities

 On page 170 of Finding Community: how to Join an ecovillage or intentional community by Diana Leafe Christian,, she includes a list of signs a group is disconnected.  Earlier she mentioned that communities go through “flu season” so these are … Continue reading

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talking about your generation – millennials and cohousing

It dawned on me that most people that started cohousing in the US are at least in their late 40s. Most started in the late 90s and early 2000s. Not that new ones aren’t breaking ground every day, in general, … Continue reading

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Fences make good neighbors – boundaries are good, even in cohousing, intentional communities.

This article caught my attention. I recently did work interviews and like it when they say they are a family. I hadn’t thought of the flip side – it could be an abuse of your time and boundaries. Obviously, people … Continue reading

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You gotta have friends – but they might not be in cohousing

Like I said in a previous post, friendship is not guaranteed at cohousing. Of course everyone will be friendly and you’ll know each other’s name. If It’s a small cohousing – like less than 13 units, I’ve heard that cliques … Continue reading

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