Category Archives: group think and cults

Not just the facts, m’am

Posted on September 14, 2022 by CJ

My son has autism so sometimes he feels like someone has broken a rule. That also leads him to look to report the rule breaker. The other night, he called the police.  The police came and were very kind to … Continue reading →

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Olivia Newton-John is my muse

Posted on September 11, 2022 by CJ

It’s been a few weeks since she passed, but I am still trying to figure it out.  Olivia Newton-John is a big part of my life. At age seven, I saw Grease in the theater. From the ad on the … Continue reading →

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Why you shouldn’t tell someone to just move on

Posted on August 21, 2022 by CJ

I had never had narcissistic abuse until I moved into cohousing. There was a big one who controlled the whole narrative and changed the focus from her family’s appalling behavior to my attempt of helping them and the community. So, … Continue reading →

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The Anarchists on HBO and The Deep End on Hulu

Posted on August 16, 2022 by CJ

Sometimes shows can capture what life is like living in a forming community. HBO has a documentary called The Anarchists about a group of, you guessed it, anarchists organizing a conference and living in Acapulco, Mexico.  This show demonstrates exactly … Continue reading →

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Real humans

Posted on July 17, 2022 by CJ

I saw the above quote yesterday on Facebook. I cant’ stop thinking about it.  If 98% of a cohousing community ignores you what does that say about them?  I tried talking to each person about what happened and my choices … Continue reading →

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The C word

Posted on June 26, 2022 by CJ

I’ve been traveling a lot the past few months.  I’ve seen old friends and made new ones.  I met up with a friend, Claire, who visited me a few years ago. She had remembered, but I had forgotten, that we … Continue reading →

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Scapegoat in the Family

Posted on June 1, 2022 by CJ

One of my pet peeves is when people in cohousing call it a family. It isn’t but if you want to go there you have to be honest. There are all types of families. Some are the Brady Bunch and … Continue reading →

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Guest Blog Post – I’m not the only one!

Posted on May 28, 2022 by CJ

Whenever I think I just had a “bad experience” as two cohousers have told me, I think of my friend all the way across the country. She moved into a cohousing that is over 10 years old, so mine being … Continue reading →

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Why did I move into and want cohousing in the first place?

Posted on May 7, 2022 by CJ

Flower asked me why I moved into cohousing in the first place.  I looked at my first posts and realized I never did write that. So, I looked at my notes and found this draft. I will post it now: … Continue reading →

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The Buck Stops Nowhere

Posted on March 9, 2022 by CJ

Even if it’s not a big problem, cohousing moves at glacial speed. Everything has to be decided as a group. However, I recently noticed that means they can tell you to f off in a way that shirks their responsibility.  … Continue reading →

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