Category Archives: grief and grieving

Olivia Newton-John is my muse

Posted on September 11, 2022 by CJ

It’s been a few weeks since she passed, but I am still trying to figure it out.  Olivia Newton-John is a big part of my life. At age seven, I saw Grease in the theater. From the ad on the … Continue reading →

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We Need a Little Christmas Now, according to Cotsco

Posted on August 26, 2022 by CJ

I went to Cotsco yesterday and I haven’t been in awhile but there it was – a few Christmas items. Just a little. Some ribbons and a frosty tree decoration and a Disney village figurine of snow and all. Just … Continue reading →

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Why you shouldn’t tell someone to just move on

Posted on August 21, 2022 by CJ

I had never had narcissistic abuse until I moved into cohousing. There was a big one who controlled the whole narrative and changed the focus from her family’s appalling behavior to my attempt of helping them and the community. So, … Continue reading →

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need for support during grief

Posted on July 24, 2022 by CJ

This article is interesting – how in this country we need more support for those who are grieving instead of putting it all on the person. I know I grieved a lot the loss of the dream of cohousing. Luckily … Continue reading →

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Johnny Depp/Amber Heard PTSD, cohousing, and me

Posted on May 28, 2022 by CJ

I was listening to court TV as I fell asleep the other night. One of the psychologists was talking.  She was describing how Amber Heard had PTSD.  She said that when incidents keep popping up in your head when you … Continue reading →

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Live and Lose even in cohousing

Posted on December 5, 2021 by CJ

As you can tell, I write a lot. I’ve kept a diary since I was 13 and enjoyed writing before then. But this post is difficult for me to write. I thought our cat, Garfield, would go to the vet, … Continue reading →

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Day of the Dead Dia de los Muertos

Posted on November 3, 2021 by CJ

I always put up an altar for Day of the Dead.  One year I didn’t and I forgot to honor my Aunt Jo. That night my back door slammed back and forth in the wind for the one and only … Continue reading →

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Just listen

Posted on October 13, 2021 by CJ

a great video on listening. For grieving or whenever someone is in pain. (I wish I could say I never said any of these, but I have. Now I can do better.)

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Kindness at the End of Life at cohousing

Posted on August 5, 2021 by CJ

One way I saw my neighbors act in a compassionate way was toward a woman at her last stage of life. Her family was taking care of her but everyone welcomed her to the cohousing community. One family let them … Continue reading →

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Phoenix Rising

Posted on June 2, 2021 by CJ

They say the phoenix rebirths itself from its own ashes. We are like that. Life is like that.  One person’s nightmare is a dream for someone else. Things get better for everyone with time. Exactly a year ago huge problems … Continue reading →

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