Category Archives: control and decision making in cohousing

Cohousing is not family!

One of my pet peeves is when people compare cohousing to being in a family.  Some families are awful!  Of course, everyone tries their best, but some have so many issues.  We have all met people who have left their … Continue reading

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You will choose the Wrong cohousing community

Cohousing is a lot like marriage. A long time commitment to a relationship. This article on marriage can also be said of cohousing. With that said, sometimes it just isn’t going to work out – job change, family changes, life … Continue reading

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How to build a cohousing

I have a few posts on resources. Here are some specific places to look for professionals to help you build you project https://www.cohousing.org/directory/wpbdp_category/pro/ Step by step how most cohos are done: https://www.cohousing.org/create-cohousing/create-it/ some definitions, thanks to the cohousing listserv folks … Continue reading

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Going Coastal instead of Postal

Ever since the first few tragedies at post offices in the 1980s, the phrase going postal has meant getting upset at coworkers and hurting them. Here at the beach the beach houses all have cute names. One was Going Coastal.  … Continue reading

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Safe in a gated community and/or cohousing

I visited a cohousing recently and I asked my usual questions. I want to know how it’s gone since forming. They had a rough time for awhile, but a few families moved out, and things have been smooth ever since. … Continue reading

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Don’t tell me what to do with the days of our lives

Wikipedia gives this physiological definition of reactance: Reactance is an unpleasant motivational arousal (reaction) to offers, persons, rules, or regulations that threaten or eliminate specific behavioral freedoms. Reactance occurs when a person feels that someone or something is taking away … Continue reading

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The Cooperative Culture Handbook book review

I was so excited to get the book The Cooperative Culture Handbook: A social Change Manual to Dismantle Toxic Culture and Build Connection by Yan a Ludwig and Karen Gimnig.  Maybe I”m too jaded and now have a deep mistrust … Continue reading

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Communities magazine and myths of communities

I have been reading all the Communities magazines that come with your membership of Foundations for Intentional Communities. In volume 8, they discuss children and how they act like packs and have a society of children.  So true. They also … Continue reading

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Where there’s smoke

I have had the chance to be at the first meetings of a forming cohousing group.  There were some emails going back and forth about whether or not to allow smoking on the property or not. One person got offended … Continue reading

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Book Review – Let’s Talk About Money

Let’s talk about Money: A conversation guide for Intentional Communities by Eris Weaver This book is small but user friendly. It has exercises to work with your group on money issues. Of course it’s a hot item and brings up  … Continue reading

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