Category Archives: control and decision making in cohousing

Can you control others?

Of course not.  There is a lack of control. It’s not that big a deal until it is. Now in Covid many groups are struggling with those who choose to vaccinate and those who don’t.  And what about the children? … Continue reading

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The only thing to fear is people who fear conflict

Twice now I have seen people mention they don’t want to discuss something at the monthly meeting because it could create conflict. What??? That sums up my community in a nutshell. So afraid of conflict that they are now scared … Continue reading

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Cohousing is like the Office Fridge

Cohousing and Community living is like the office fridge.  You have to negotiate everything.  Sometimes things happen outside of your control and you can’t control how others react. I had something in the office fridge (at work, not cohousing) and … Continue reading

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A conflict free year

For one of my new year’s resolutions I gave up zoom. I’m not crazy – not entirely, just as many as possible that I can avoid.  So, now it’s just for work and a few of the close friends I … Continue reading

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warped studies on cohousing?

Here is a study on cohousing and cohousing like places. As I read it I wondered how valid these studies can be. Do they ever talk to the people who left? Those who stay are obviously happy with their community … Continue reading

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Where the truth lies – in the comment section

It is so hard to find those who have left cohousing or intentional communities. I found some interesting comments to the NYT opinion about how cohousing would cure loneliness (again – that’s always the tag line. This time for motheres) … Continue reading

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problem solved ever in cohousing?

I found this on another blog but I love the image! I felt like i was the only one looking for solutions and everyone else in that cohousing were searching for a hole to stick their head in. They wanted … Continue reading

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cohousing scam

I’ve been scammed. I re-read the book – the book that started the whole cohousing movement in the USA.  Kathryn McCamant and Charles Durrett wrote Creating Cohousing: building sustainable communities and I have the updated version.  They found cohousing in … Continue reading

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signs of a healthy community

On page 171 in Finding Community: how to Join an ecovillage or intentional community by Diana Leafe Christian,, she includes a list of signs a group is connected.   It was written by Larry Kapiowitz.  The  Lost Valley Educational center … Continue reading

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talking about your generation – millennials and cohousing

It dawned on me that most people that started cohousing in the US are at least in their late 40s. Most started in the late 90s and early 2000s. Not that new ones aren’t breaking ground every day, in general, … Continue reading

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