Category Archives: control and decision making in cohousing

The Truth is Out There

Posted on September 25, 2022 by CJ

I am so happy. There is now a book out there that shows exactly what it is like to live in cohousing.  Diane Rothbard Margolis published We Built a Village: Cohouising and the Commons.  She lays it all out there … Continue reading →

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My money pit or ours?

Posted on July 12, 2022 by CJ

I’m starting to regret selling my house in cohousing. It was a nice, new construction so my life as a landlord was easy. No repairs, nothing. Now I don’t’ even have renters in yet and the AC broke and I … Continue reading →

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Guest Blog Post – I’m not the only one!

Posted on May 28, 2022 by CJ

Whenever I think I just had a “bad experience” as two cohousers have told me, I think of my friend all the way across the country. She moved into a cohousing that is over 10 years old, so mine being … Continue reading →

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The Slap and Cohousing

Posted on May 20, 2022 by CJ

I wrote this months ago way before the Slap that was heard around the world at the Oscars 2022. The Slap is a novel and it was made into a TV series in it’s homeland of Australian and then into … Continue reading →

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Tiger King, Elizabeth Holmes (The Drop Out), Narcissists and Me

Posted on May 20, 2022 by CJ

I’ve been obsessed about narcissists recently – I wonder why?  But they do come in all shapes and sizes. I’ve heard that we are all a bit narcissistic but some take it way over the edge. I feel like our … Continue reading →

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vacation from paradise?

Posted on April 29, 2022 by CJ

I read an article this week on cohousing.  Not sure how old it is but it popped up for me.  One cohouser said that sometimes they need to escape and have a vacation but they always like to return and … Continue reading →

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if one person has something to say and no one wants to hear

Posted on April 1, 2022 by CJ

Excellent article by an excellent writer and facilitator below. She is giving an example just from a plenary perspective or something that has been said or dealt with before, but I’d say it’d go along with a topic no one … Continue reading →

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The Buck Stops Nowhere

Posted on March 9, 2022 by CJ

Even if it’s not a big problem, cohousing moves at glacial speed. Everything has to be decided as a group. However, I recently noticed that means they can tell you to f off in a way that shirks their responsibility.  … Continue reading →

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Can you control others?

Posted on January 17, 2022 by CJ

Of course not.  There is a lack of control. It’s not that big a deal until it is. Now in Covid many groups are struggling with those who choose to vaccinate and those who don’t.  And what about the children? … Continue reading →

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The only thing to fear is people who fear conflict

Posted on January 17, 2022 by CJ

Twice now I have seen people mention they don’t want to discuss something at the monthly meeting because it could create conflict. What??? That sums up my community in a nutshell. So afraid of conflict that they are now scared … Continue reading →

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