Category Archives: control and decision making in cohousing

problem solved ever in cohousing?

I found this on another blog but I love the image! I felt like i was the only one looking for solutions and everyone else in that cohousing were searching for a hole to stick their head in. They wanted … Continue reading

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cohousing scam

I’ve been scammed. I re-read the book – the book that started the whole cohousing movement in the USA.  Kathryn McCamant and Charles Durrett wrote Creating Cohousing: building sustainable communities and I have the updated version.  They found cohousing in … Continue reading

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signs of a healthy community

On page 171 in Finding Community: how to Join an ecovillage or intentional community by Diana Leafe Christian,, she includes a list of signs a group is connected.   It was written by Larry Kapiowitz.  The  Lost Valley Educational center … Continue reading

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talking about your generation – millennials and cohousing

It dawned on me that most people that started cohousing in the US are at least in their late 40s. Most started in the late 90s and early 2000s. Not that new ones aren’t breaking ground every day, in general, … Continue reading

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Cohousing is not family!

One of my pet peeves is when people compare cohousing to being in a family.  Some families are awful!  Of course, everyone tries their best, but some have so many issues.  We have all met people who have left their … Continue reading

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You will choose the Wrong cohousing community

Cohousing is a lot like marriage. A long time commitment to a relationship. This article on marriage can also be said of cohousing. With that said, sometimes it just isn’t going to work out – job change, family changes, life … Continue reading

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How to build a cohousing

I have a few posts on resources. Here are some specific places to look for professionals to help you build you project https://www.cohousing.org/directory/wpbdp_category/pro/ Step by step how most cohos are done: https://www.cohousing.org/create-cohousing/create-it/ some definitions, thanks to the cohousing listserv folks … Continue reading

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Going Coastal instead of Postal

Ever since the first few tragedies at post offices in the 1980s, the phrase going postal has meant getting upset at coworkers and hurting them. Here at the beach the beach houses all have cute names. One was Going Coastal.  … Continue reading

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Safe in a gated community and/or cohousing

I visited a cohousing recently and I asked my usual questions. I want to know how it’s gone since forming. They had a rough time for awhile, but a few families moved out, and things have been smooth ever since. … Continue reading

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Don’t tell me what to do with the days of our lives

Wikipedia gives this physiological definition of reactance: Reactance is an unpleasant motivational arousal (reaction) to offers, persons, rules, or regulations that threaten or eliminate specific behavioral freedoms. Reactance occurs when a person feels that someone or something is taking away … Continue reading

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