Category Archives: control and decision making in cohousing

The Slap and Cohousing

I wrote this months ago way before the Slap that was heard around the world at the Oscars 2022. The Slap is a novel and it was made into a TV series in it’s homeland of Australian and then into … Continue reading

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Tiger King, Elizabeth Holmes (The Drop Out), Narcissists and Me

I’ve been obsessed about narcissists recently – I wonder why?  But they do come in all shapes and sizes. I’ve heard that we are all a bit narcissistic but some take it way over the edge. I feel like our … Continue reading

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vacation from paradise?

I read an article this week on cohousing.  Not sure how old it is but it popped up for me.  One cohouser said that sometimes they need to escape and have a vacation but they always like to return and … Continue reading

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if one person has something to say and no one wants to hear

Excellent article by an excellent writer and facilitator below. She is giving an example just from a plenary perspective or something that has been said or dealt with before, but I’d say it’d go along with a topic no one … Continue reading

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The Buck Stops Nowhere

Even if it’s not a big problem, cohousing moves at glacial speed. Everything has to be decided as a group. However, I recently noticed that means they can tell you to f off in a way that shirks their responsibility.  … Continue reading

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Can you control others?

Of course not.  There is a lack of control. It’s not that big a deal until it is. Now in Covid many groups are struggling with those who choose to vaccinate and those who don’t.  And what about the children? … Continue reading

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The only thing to fear is people who fear conflict

Twice now I have seen people mention they don’t want to discuss something at the monthly meeting because it could create conflict. What??? That sums up my community in a nutshell. So afraid of conflict that they are now scared … Continue reading

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Cohousing is like the Office Fridge

Cohousing and Community living is like the office fridge.  You have to negotiate everything.  Sometimes things happen outside of your control and you can’t control how others react. I had something in the office fridge (at work, not cohousing) and … Continue reading

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A conflict free year

For one of my new year’s resolutions I gave up zoom. I’m not crazy – not entirely, just as many as possible that I can avoid.  So, now it’s just for work and a few of the close friends I … Continue reading

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warped studies on cohousing?

Here is a study on cohousing and cohousing like places. As I read it I wondered how valid these studies can be. Do they ever talk to the people who left? Those who stay are obviously happy with their community … Continue reading

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