Category Archives: bad behavior and bullies of any age

Cohousing is like the Office Fridge

Posted on January 17, 2022 by CJ

Cohousing and Community living is like the office fridge.  You have to negotiate everything.  Sometimes things happen outside of your control and you can’t control how others react. I had something in the office fridge (at work, not cohousing) and … Continue reading →

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Hard Candy Christmas

Posted on December 25, 2021 by CJ

On the show Friends, Monica makes candy to get to know the  neighbors.  I don’t understand why we don’t try more to get to know our neighbors in general.  They didn’t know her name and called her Candy Lady but … Continue reading →

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Will we all be shamed, Monica Lewinsky?

Posted on December 8, 2021 by CJ

I googled public humiliation. I was trying to see how others dealt with being a scapegoat. I came across a great article written by Monica Lewinsky. She knows a thing or two about this.  I admire her work to stop … Continue reading →

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alarms going off

Posted on December 1, 2021 by CJ

Good neighbors are a blessing.  Tonight I ran off to do a few errands and it seems like the world exploded and it took hours. At least, I think we got all on our to do list done! As my … Continue reading →

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Paralyzing Fear of the Rumor Mill

Posted on November 24, 2021 by CJ

It’s always a good thing to talk directly to someone. That makes a healthy community. Unfortunately, in some places, the rumor mill spins out half truths instead. In my former cohousing, someone sent out an email saying they were moving … Continue reading →

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A realistic advertisement for a cohousing home for sale

Posted on November 18, 2021 by CJ

Sometimes I think what happened to me is unique because we were a new forming community and there were some unique issues that came up.  But I have met a few people that had similar experiences, so my hope diminishes.  … Continue reading →

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Help me, Mediator, you’re our only hope!

Posted on November 9, 2021 by CJ

“I tried to make the case that you cannot successfully build community by sacrificing relationships on the altar of your principles.“ I love this quote by today’s blog post from Laird.  I think I needed to hear it. I’m sad … Continue reading →

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Forgiveness and cohousing and intentional communities

Posted on November 9, 2021 by CJ

As I wrote the last post I realized I need to discuss forgiveness more.  I already mentioned that I felt I would never be forgiven but what about me forgiving them?  Immediately as my actions panned out as an error, … Continue reading →

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Baby, Come Back to cohousing and intentional communities

Posted on November 8, 2021 by CJ

I have a dilemma. Or a temptation?  Not sure what you’d call it but just as I’m finally “getting over” the kerfuffle at the cohousing community, I’m being urged to return.  Yes, I know the other players are moving out.  … Continue reading →

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Even ghosts want out of cohousing

Posted on October 26, 2021 by CJ

I am terrified of ghosts. I hear a ghost story and I’m thankful I never met one. I may have seen one once as a child but I think, I hope, it was a shadow from a passing car that … Continue reading →

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