Category Archives: bad behavior and bullies of any age

cohousing scam

I’ve been scammed. I re-read the book – the book that started the whole cohousing movement in the USA.  Kathryn McCamant and Charles Durrett wrote Creating Cohousing: building sustainable communities and I have the updated version.  They found cohousing in … Continue reading

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signs of a healthy community

On page 171 in Finding Community: how to Join an ecovillage or intentional community by Diana Leafe Christian,, she includes a list of signs a group is connected.   It was written by Larry Kapiowitz.  The  Lost Valley Educational center … Continue reading

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Danger signs to look for in a group and/or intentional communities

 On page 170 of Finding Community: how to Join an ecovillage or intentional community by Diana Leafe Christian,, she includes a list of signs a group is disconnected.  Earlier she mentioned that communities go through “flu season” so these are … Continue reading

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small town knows all – all your faults and foibles

It finally happened. I’ve been living in small towns and my kids have been growing up there.  A teacher I”m co-teaching a class with me figured out she taught my son a few years ago.  It’s not the biggest deal … Continue reading

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Gambling on cohousing

When you buy a house in cohousing, you are taking a roll of the dice.  Like any housing, the prices could go up or down.  You also are gambling that this community will be the cohousing you dreamed of.  Of … Continue reading

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Cohousing is not family!

One of my pet peeves is when people compare cohousing to being in a family.  Some families are awful!  Of course, everyone tries their best, but some have so many issues.  We have all met people who have left their … Continue reading

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You gotta have friends – but they might not be in cohousing

Like I said in a previous post, friendship is not guaranteed at cohousing. Of course everyone will be friendly and you’ll know each other’s name. If It’s a small cohousing – like less than 13 units, I’ve heard that cliques … Continue reading

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Raising kids in cohousing – again

There is probably no bigger issue than children in cohousing. Many people want to live in cohousing because it looks like a wonderful place to raise children. That’s what I thought too.  And it can be but some things to … Continue reading

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Erika Jayne, divorce and cohousing

Cohousing is like marriage.  And getting out is like divorce. I have admitted that my guilty pleasure is the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. I swore to give it up but then I realized I lived it.  The women frequently … Continue reading

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Anthony Hopkins is a great actor but someone else is a wise writer

(at least physically at first, it takes longer to move on in your mind emotionally but it gets better)You may have seen the meme with these great words attributed to Sir Anthony. He didn’t write it , but no matter, … Continue reading

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