Category Archives: bad behavior and bullies of any age

Did My Neighbor Take Out My Trash?

The other day I put out three small bags of trash. I have to put them outside or else my dog will undo them. I was going to take them out when I walked her.  When I went to bring … Continue reading

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Diagnosis Negative

It’s confirmed. I have cooties.  I went to a meeting where another former neighbor happened to be there and poof, they left the zoom. It could be a bad connection but I”m sure it was me. I stink. I suck. … Continue reading

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Question for my readers

I’ve been wanting to ask – I’ve been alluding to something happening that made the whole community (or the most vocal ones) shun and hate me. What do you think I did?  (If you are someone I know and are … Continue reading

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Who they really are

Reading the communities magazine, someone said how horrified we all are at how we behave in conflict. So true. I’m not happy of all my reactions and actions. But I was shocked by what others did.  When someone shows who … Continue reading

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Cohousing is like the Office Fridge

Cohousing and Community living is like the office fridge.  You have to negotiate everything.  Sometimes things happen outside of your control and you can’t control how others react. I had something in the office fridge (at work, not cohousing) and … Continue reading

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Hard Candy Christmas

On the show Friends, Monica makes candy to get to know the  neighbors.  I don’t understand why we don’t try more to get to know our neighbors in general.  They didn’t know her name and called her Candy Lady but … Continue reading

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Will we all be shamed, Monica Lewinsky?

I googled public humiliation. I was trying to see how others dealt with being a scapegoat. I came across a great article written by Monica Lewinsky. She knows a thing or two about this.  I admire her work to stop … Continue reading

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alarms going off

Good neighbors are a blessing.  Tonight I ran off to do a few errands and it seems like the world exploded and it took hours. At least, I think we got all on our to do list done! As my … Continue reading

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Paralyzing Fear of the Rumor Mill

It’s always a good thing to talk directly to someone. That makes a healthy community. Unfortunately, in some places, the rumor mill spins out half truths instead. In my former cohousing, someone sent out an email saying they were moving … Continue reading

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A realistic advertisement for a cohousing home for sale

Sometimes I think what happened to me is unique because we were a new forming community and there were some unique issues that came up.  But I have met a few people that had similar experiences, so my hope diminishes.  … Continue reading

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