Category Archives: bad behavior and bullies of any age

End of Dog Days of Summer

End of dog days of summer Summer is not for dogs at the beach. They are not allowed until after Labor Day and then banned again after Memorial Day. Okay, they can appear after 6pm. But, now is the time … Continue reading

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cohousing/intentional communities may not be a perfect place to raise children

I love reading old Communities magazines.  It comes with a membership of Foundations of Intentional Communities.  It seems like the old adage – the more things change, the more stay the same. Same issues then as now with communities. In … Continue reading

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Wild Child Book Review

Wild child: Girlhoods in the Counterculture is an anthology of memoirs by women who grew up in the 60s and 70s with hippie parents. Some lived in communes, others traveled the country, but they all have a story to tell.  … Continue reading

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cohousing scam

I’ve been scammed. I re-read the book – the book that started the whole cohousing movement in the USA.  Kathryn McCamant and Charles Durrett wrote Creating Cohousing: building sustainable communities and I have the updated version.  They found cohousing in … Continue reading

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signs of a healthy community

On page 171 in Finding Community: how to Join an ecovillage or intentional community by Diana Leafe Christian,, she includes a list of signs a group is connected.   It was written by Larry Kapiowitz.  The  Lost Valley Educational center … Continue reading

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Danger signs to look for in a group and/or intentional communities

 On page 170 of Finding Community: how to Join an ecovillage or intentional community by Diana Leafe Christian,, she includes a list of signs a group is disconnected.  Earlier she mentioned that communities go through “flu season” so these are … Continue reading

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small town knows all – all your faults and foibles

It finally happened. I’ve been living in small towns and my kids have been growing up there.  A teacher I”m co-teaching a class with me figured out she taught my son a few years ago.  It’s not the biggest deal … Continue reading

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Gambling on cohousing

When you buy a house in cohousing, you are taking a roll of the dice.  Like any housing, the prices could go up or down.  You also are gambling that this community will be the cohousing you dreamed of.  Of … Continue reading

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Cohousing is not family!

One of my pet peeves is when people compare cohousing to being in a family.  Some families are awful!  Of course, everyone tries their best, but some have so many issues.  We have all met people who have left their … Continue reading

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You gotta have friends – but they might not be in cohousing

Like I said in a previous post, friendship is not guaranteed at cohousing. Of course everyone will be friendly and you’ll know each other’s name. If It’s a small cohousing – like less than 13 units, I’ve heard that cliques … Continue reading

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