Category Archives: bad behavior and bullies of any age

Sexual Abuse and Cohousing and Intentional Communities

“There is always sexual abuse in Intentional Communities”  One of my former neighbors casually said that repeating what a friend who had grown up in an IC had told him.  My thought was, “Hell No. Not on my watch. And … Continue reading

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The Slap and Cohousing

I wrote this months ago way before the Slap that was heard around the world at the Oscars 2022. The Slap is a novel and it was made into a TV series in it’s homeland of Australian and then into … Continue reading

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Tiger King, Elizabeth Holmes (The Drop Out), Narcissists and Me

I’ve been obsessed about narcissists recently – I wonder why?  But they do come in all shapes and sizes. I’ve heard that we are all a bit narcissistic but some take it way over the edge. I feel like our … Continue reading

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Flying Monkeys around cohousing communities

A friend sent me this link. She saw it first hand. How a community just lets bad behavior continue. Too scary to stand up and maybe be the next victim. I’d just say before moving somewhere, ask how many people … Continue reading

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if one person has something to say and no one wants to hear

Excellent article by an excellent writer and facilitator below. She is giving an example just from a plenary perspective or something that has been said or dealt with before, but I’d say it’d go along with a topic no one … Continue reading

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Did My Neighbor Take Out My Trash?

The other day I put out three small bags of trash. I have to put them outside or else my dog will undo them. I was going to take them out when I walked her.  When I went to bring … Continue reading

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Diagnosis Negative

It’s confirmed. I have cooties.  I went to a meeting where another former neighbor happened to be there and poof, they left the zoom. It could be a bad connection but I”m sure it was me. I stink. I suck. … Continue reading

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Question for my readers

I’ve been wanting to ask – I’ve been alluding to something happening that made the whole community (or the most vocal ones) shun and hate me. What do you think I did?  (If you are someone I know and are … Continue reading

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Who they really are

Reading the communities magazine, someone said how horrified we all are at how we behave in conflict. So true. I’m not happy of all my reactions and actions. But I was shocked by what others did.  When someone shows who … Continue reading

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Cohousing is like the Office Fridge

Cohousing and Community living is like the office fridge.  You have to negotiate everything.  Sometimes things happen outside of your control and you can’t control how others react. I had something in the office fridge (at work, not cohousing) and … Continue reading

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