Category Archives: bad behavior and bullies of any age

Back to school

Posted on November 20, 2022 by CJ

I read another cohousing article recently where one woman mentioned she had a friend who lived in a retirement community. She pointed out how much this friend hated it there and felt like they returned to high school with the … Continue reading →

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Book Review – Escaping Utopia and similarities to cohousing

Posted on October 7, 2022 by CJ

ESCAPING UTOPIA: Growing up in a cult, getting out, and starting over. The book is based on cult/toxic group research and contains many Interviews of cult survivors who were brought into the cult as children (or born in). The first … Continue reading →

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News from Whistle Stop and Lake Wobegon

Posted on August 27, 2022 by CJ

Years ago I read the book by Francis Flagg Fried Green Tomatoes.  I loved it all. I recently listened to it on audible. The part I was focusing on was what I wanted cohousing to be like – a newsletter. … Continue reading →

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Why you shouldn’t tell someone to just move on

Posted on August 21, 2022 by CJ

I had never had narcissistic abuse until I moved into cohousing. There was a big one who controlled the whole narrative and changed the focus from her family’s appalling behavior to my attempt of helping them and the community. So, … Continue reading →

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The Anarchists on HBO and The Deep End on Hulu

Posted on August 16, 2022 by CJ

Sometimes shows can capture what life is like living in a forming community. HBO has a documentary called The Anarchists about a group of, you guessed it, anarchists organizing a conference and living in Acapulco, Mexico.  This show demonstrates exactly … Continue reading →

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Real humans

Posted on July 17, 2022 by CJ

I saw the above quote yesterday on Facebook. I cant’ stop thinking about it.  If 98% of a cohousing community ignores you what does that say about them?  I tried talking to each person about what happened and my choices … Continue reading →

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The C word

Posted on June 26, 2022 by CJ

I’ve been traveling a lot the past few months.  I’ve seen old friends and made new ones.  I met up with a friend, Claire, who visited me a few years ago. She had remembered, but I had forgotten, that we … Continue reading →

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Sweet Privacy

Posted on June 18, 2022 by CJ

I have some next door neighbors that love privacy. One is super shy so I respect his need for space. We’ve had a few short conversations and I know that he prefers to be alone (doesn’t even come to the … Continue reading →

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Scapegoat in the Family

Posted on June 1, 2022 by CJ

One of my pet peeves is when people in cohousing call it a family. It isn’t but if you want to go there you have to be honest. There are all types of families. Some are the Brady Bunch and … Continue reading →

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Guest Blog Post – I’m not the only one!

Posted on May 28, 2022 by CJ

Whenever I think I just had a “bad experience” as two cohousers have told me, I think of my friend all the way across the country. She moved into a cohousing that is over 10 years old, so mine being … Continue reading →

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