Author Archives: CJ

About CJ

I was a Spanish teacher for 5 years in the Public School system in 3 different states. I homeschooled and taught at a democratic free school. I heard about cohousing in 2010 and wanted to move in right away. I met a group building one in 2018 and got to move in the summer of 2019. It only took a year to want out.

No real commitments to social bonding

I found this blog post on someone’s experience in cohousing. Perfect timing. We are having huge health issues in our household and I wonder what it would’ve been like at cohousing. Now I have more verification that leaving was the … Continue reading

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Netflix’s The Watcher review

I just binge watched Netflix’s The Watcher.  I was hooked the minute I saw the trailer – and it has Olivia Newton John’s song in it!  Very creepy trailer.  I posted the true story article a few weeks ago.  I … Continue reading

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Book Review – Escaping Utopia and similarities to cohousing

ESCAPING UTOPIA: Growing up in a cult, getting out, and starting over. The book is based on cult/toxic group research and contains many Interviews of cult survivors who were brought into the cult as children (or born in). The first … Continue reading

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Lucky if get cohousing built at all

Another article of a cohousing group losing money developing the project (which is fully disclosed) and unable to build. I knew I was lucky to just buy a house built by a developer (since I didn’t have the money to … Continue reading

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viral cohousing collapses

First off, they were never cohousing to begin with. The Cohousing Association is meant to be a bunch of privately owned houses with shared common spaces. That said, this group of divorced mothers bought and shared a house – which … Continue reading

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The Truth is Out There

I am so happy. There is now a book out there that shows exactly what it is like to live in cohousing.  Diane Rothbard Margolis published We Built a Village: Cohouising and the Commons.  She lays it all out there … Continue reading

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Watch your neighbors watching you

A creepy new show is going to start on Netflix soon. It is based on true story. Here it is. So many scary details, mostly how neighbors turn on neighbors. https://www.thecut.com/article/the-haunting-of-657-boulevard-in-westfield-new-jersey.html

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Why is it so hard to be the new hire? or newest person?

Getting a new job is exciting. Moving into a cohousing is exhilarating. But being new at anything is so challenging. It’s hard for the “old ones” to onboard newcomers and explain every in and out of the culture. I already … Continue reading

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Podcast with founding mother of USA cohousing

You can hear the founding mother of cohousing in United States on the Transforming cities podcast On youtube: I found it on spotify below: Episode 49 It is interesting to hear her background and how she became an architect and … Continue reading

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Not just the facts, m’am

My son has autism so sometimes he feels like someone has broken a rule. That also leads him to look to report the rule breaker. The other night, he called the police.  The police came and were very kind to … Continue reading

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