Author Archives: CJ

About CJ

I was a Spanish teacher for 5 years in the Public School system in 3 different states. I homeschooled and taught at a democratic free school. I heard about cohousing in 2010 and wanted to move in right away. I met a group building one in 2018 and got to move in the summer of 2019. It only took a year to want out.

Sexual Abuse and Cohousing and Intentional Communities

Posted on May 20, 2022 by CJ

“There is always sexual abuse in Intentional Communities”  One of my former neighbors casually said that repeating what a friend who had grown up in an IC had told him.  My thought was, “Hell No. Not on my watch. And … Continue reading →

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The Slap and Cohousing

Posted on May 20, 2022 by CJ

I wrote this months ago way before the Slap that was heard around the world at the Oscars 2022. The Slap is a novel and it was made into a TV series in it’s homeland of Australian and then into … Continue reading →

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Questions before you buy into a cohousing

Posted on May 20, 2022 by CJ

I may have posted this already but I found some other questions so here it is again. Some are for the community to you, some may be good for yourself, and some are important to ask them. You can’t really … Continue reading →

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Tiger King, Elizabeth Holmes (The Drop Out), Narcissists and Me

Posted on May 20, 2022 by CJ

I’ve been obsessed about narcissists recently – I wonder why?  But they do come in all shapes and sizes. I’ve heard that we are all a bit narcissistic but some take it way over the edge. I feel like our … Continue reading →

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Book Review of Commune Living – The Notes from the Nethers

Posted on May 18, 2022 by CJ

Notes from the Nethers  by Sandra Eugster I read this book last year, a memoir of living on a commune. Since then, I have read Communities Magazines and in their first issues from the 70s and 80s. It was fun … Continue reading →

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Another One Bites the Dust

Posted on May 17, 2022 by CJ

I keep thinking about the perfect cohousing. The one that lives up to the hype. This will be your last home (and that’s how many people think as they design their houses and communities).  They are almost 10 years old … Continue reading →

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Strangers in Sicily last two chapters – 16 and 17

Posted on May 8, 2022 by CJ

Chapter 16 – Argento (silver)  in Agrigento     In Agrigento province we found the silver lining, the Fedoro Argento, to our clouded situation. Nella and her fiancée, Benedetto, picked us up in Santa Margherita. Pleasantly surprised, Benedetto couldn’t wait to … Continue reading →

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Strangers in Sicily Chapters 14 and 15

Posted on May 8, 2022 by CJ

A nightmare for me and what I naively thought couldn’t happen in cohousing until I was proven very wrong. Conflict avoidance always hurts someone Chapter 14 – Island Hopping *Rob* Leaving our Sicilian affairs in Carol’s capable hands, I traced … Continue reading →

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Strangers in Sicily Chapter 13

Posted on May 8, 2022 by CJ

An interesting chapter number since bad things start to happen which later re-surface in my experience at cohousing. Dog attacks and lack of communication. Enjoy: Chapter 13 – People are Strange When You’re Stranieri  *Carol* Once, when I was a … Continue reading →

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Strangers in Sicily Chapters 10, 11, 12

Posted on May 8, 2022 by CJ

Chapter 10 – The End of an Era *CAROL* After Christmas, I was off again. Not that I wanted to be.  But I was going with the flow, and this time the flow was Mom and Aunt Kay dragging me … Continue reading →

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