Author Archives: CJ

About CJ

I was a Spanish teacher for 5 years in the Public School system in 3 different states. I homeschooled and taught at a democratic free school. I heard about cohousing in 2010 and wanted to move in right away. I met a group building one in 2018 and got to move in the summer of 2019. It only took a year to want out.

Thankful of many blessings

Posted on November 25, 2021 by CJ

This Thanksgiving I giveth over with thanks.  I love the idea of Friendsgiving. I have so many friends and relationships that I am truly blessed.  I also have a wonderful family. Like I said, I thought we were dysfunctional but … Continue reading →

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Paralyzing Fear of the Rumor Mill

Posted on November 24, 2021 by CJ

It’s always a good thing to talk directly to someone. That makes a healthy community. Unfortunately, in some places, the rumor mill spins out half truths instead. In my former cohousing, someone sent out an email saying they were moving … Continue reading →

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Loneliness, not as big a deal as previously thought

Posted on November 22, 2021 by CJ

I was in the car a lot yesterday and heard NPR’s Best of my Knowledge show on Loneliness.  My ears perked since cohousing is given as the solution.  Yet, the author interviewed made a distinction between loneliness and solitude.  She … Continue reading →

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A realistic advertisement for a cohousing home for sale

Posted on November 18, 2021 by CJ

Sometimes I think what happened to me is unique because we were a new forming community and there were some unique issues that came up.  But I have met a few people that had similar experiences, so my hope diminishes.  … Continue reading →

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what is cohousing podcast

Posted on November 12, 2021 by CJ

This episode has a lot of information for those who are curious about what is cohousing and those ready to start forming and building one.  Mathilde Berthe and Erik Bonnett of Studio+ co-hab, an architect firm, tell us about their … Continue reading →

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Can men control their hormones? Can I?

Posted on November 11, 2021 by CJ

Like I  mentioned in love and cohousing/community post,  the happy brain chemicals that light up when you dream of a community utopia feel a lot like the dopamine rush of love. Now I find myself with some frisky men.    … Continue reading →

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Help me, Mediator, you’re our only hope!

Posted on November 9, 2021 by CJ

“I tried to make the case that you cannot successfully build community by sacrificing relationships on the altar of your principles.“ I love this quote by today’s blog post from Laird.  I think I needed to hear it. I’m sad … Continue reading →

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Forgiveness and cohousing and intentional communities

Posted on November 9, 2021 by CJ

As I wrote the last post I realized I need to discuss forgiveness more.  I already mentioned that I felt I would never be forgiven but what about me forgiving them?  Immediately as my actions panned out as an error, … Continue reading →

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Baby, Come Back to cohousing and intentional communities

Posted on November 8, 2021 by CJ

I have a dilemma. Or a temptation?  Not sure what you’d call it but just as I’m finally “getting over” the kerfuffle at the cohousing community, I’m being urged to return.  Yes, I know the other players are moving out.  … Continue reading →

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Love and Loathing in cohousing and intentional communities

Posted on November 6, 2021 by CJ

I think I have already made my point that cohousing and Intentional Communities are created with utopia in mind but real people inhabit these places with real problems, feelings, and group influence. Same with love.  Some communities openly form a … Continue reading →

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