Another Day Another Cult

This week two movies about cults (or cult like) were released. I was so happy to see the mysterious “Don’t Worry Darling”.  I could tell it was creepy and the town was holding a secret from the promotions.  It started with that tension and mystery but kept going and going.  Reading the review below repeats what I felt.

I love movies like this – Get Out, Stepford Wives, etc. Definitely more like the latter.  But they all seem to start out the same – people crave a safe place and sense of community but somehow not everyone enters these places of their own will or knowledge of what is truly going on.   Which is exactly how a cult works. You join wanting to change the world, better yourself, and be part of this amazing community that has love bombed you. Only later your realize that your celibate guru was sleeping with everyone (not always by the other’s consent), only wanted your money, and or was doing something completely crazy like branding women or poisoning the local’s salad bar.  

That’s what I experienced. Everything seemed fine – a nice, cohousing community. Soon I got a sense of deep secrets. Before you know it, many agreed to something completely ridiculous.  They even said they didn’t want outsiders but the outsiders I did speak to said, and I quote, “That’s fucking crazy.”  So note to self : be ware of groups that don’t want you to confer with outsiders and stick with your gut of what is wrong or right, though cults quickly make you dependent on them and break that part of you that listens to yourself.

The other cult movie this week surprised me. It popped up on my Netflix feed. I had never heard of this sex cult which sold an orgasim as a religion. Brilliant marketing idea and they made billions.  The story was the same as every other cult documentary – it was amazing at first. They lived and breathed each other and grew personally. Then some doubts, but worse, looking back they see how the charismatic leader had broken them down.  This cult, One Taste, pressured their members to sell and unfortunately, used sex to sell and some didn’t want to do these favors.  That got the attention of the FBI and they are under investigation. The movie, Orgasm Inc, will be a hit I”m sure since it has graphic scenes (blurred out but still) and the intincing story of wondering how did people ever agree to this?  I hope it is starting to be clear – cults are wonderful – at first!  Very smart people join them and it takes some big event to yank them out, unfortunately. 

About CJ

I was a Spanish teacher for 5 years in the Public School system in 3 different states. I homeschooled and taught at a democratic free school. I heard about cohousing in 2010 and wanted to move in right away. I met a group building one in 2018 and got to move in the summer of 2019. It only took a year to want out.
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1 Response to Another Day Another Cult

  1. Flower says:

    I saw Don’t Worry Darling the other night on TV. It was clear from the trailers that it was about utopia. It had an interest twist set in the 1950s early 60s–the Mad Men era. I don’t tend to associate the 50’s with cults, although they were around. There were probably more moves about evangelicals and corrupt religious leaders, etc., like the film Elmer Gantry. That film was made in 1960 and was about a confidence man and a female evangelist selling religion to small-town America. Don’t Worry reminded me of the Truman Show and the Stepford Wives. I saw the first Stepford Wives on TV, but I’ve never seen the second.

    There’s something very 1950s about cohousing–the “village” mentality, the tidy cozy homes that exude warmth, the grandma figures and the promise of free babysitting and tending to the welfare of the young ones, the more rural locations, the idea that everyone will look after each other and get along, etc. The only thing missing is a conventional church, which has been supplanted by the common house. I imagine members of cohousing probably practice alternative religions, chanting, drum circles, etc. That’s supposed to fill the void. I haven’t heard of the other cult movie.

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