Lucky if get cohousing built at all

Another article of a cohousing group losing money developing the project (which is fully disclosed) and unable to build. I knew I was lucky to just buy a house built by a developer (since I didn’t have the money to risk in developing cohousing from the ground up). That’s why I was so bitter – those who are in cohousing are lucky and to find out, they can let it all go up in smoke with letting conflicts blow out of control (a false promise that they will do better than the rest of society on dealing with such conflicts)

https://www.theguardian.com/world/2022/oct/01/hope-and-heartbreak-for-new-zealanders-dreaming-of-a-communal-life

About CJ

I was a Spanish teacher for 5 years in the Public School system in 3 different states. I homeschooled and taught at a democratic free school. I heard about cohousing in 2010 and wanted to move in right away. I met a group building one in 2018 and got to move in the summer of 2019. It only took a year to want out.
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3 Responses to Lucky if get cohousing built at all

  1. Flower says:

    “The scheme itself is effectively over, and at some cost: between them the families have spent millions of dollars on design and other expenses, and will likely be out of pocket. Some had sold homes or used inheritances to finance their involvement.”

    And then it all collapsed. I feel bad for the retired people and those who sold their homes. Retired people will not have working years left to make up for losses like this unless they were wealthy to begin with.

    Usually when things go south people are always seeking someone to blame and then it gets super ugly.

  2. Flower says:

    “(a false promise that they will do better than the rest of society on dealing with such conflicts)”

    I’ve been spending a lot of time on cohousing sites and few talk about dealing with conflicts. It gets little mention, if at all. On one site they list different videos under resources and other links, but nothing about “leaning into conflict” that I saw. I also watched about 2 hours worth of videos from that particular site, yet potential conflict would be first and foremost in my mind.

    One site that I studied, they focused on the “region” which I’m aware of as well as the connection to nature and stated goals, etc. The pictures also revealed another story. I showed it to my partner and pointed out “roles” which I noted from the pictures, although it was not stated directly in the written communication. The pics showed mainly children and any “older women” were depicted as “grandmother” types interacting with kids. I didn’t see the men depicted the same way. Their response was to say that it sounded like a community that would expect a lot of your time, energy and focus on other people’s kids.

    I thought about “gender” based role playing and the expectation of women always in caretaking roles in one form or another. While researching cohousing I came across an abstract that discussed women being relegated to traditional roles of free labor in the form of childcare. A lot of people would not want to fill that role nor be comfortable with it for a host of reasons. I’ll try to find it if you are interested in the link.

  3. CJ says:

    I think when the project goes belly up before it is built (or half built) the blame can easily be thrown at bankers and developers and not on other members. They can shield each other by throwing blame at financing types and, wrongly, conclude they don’t have feelings.

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