viral cohousing collapses

First off, they were never cohousing to begin with. The Cohousing Association is meant to be a bunch of privately owned houses with shared common spaces. That said, this group of divorced mothers bought and shared a house – which sounds like it does have private living areas. They also learned that boundaries and clear agreements make these arrangements better. Also, some people leave.

About CJ

I was a Spanish teacher for 5 years in the Public School system in 3 different states. I homeschooled and taught at a democratic free school. I heard about cohousing in 2010 and wanted to move in right away. I met a group building one in 2018 and got to move in the summer of 2019. It only took a year to want out.
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2 Responses to viral cohousing collapses

  1. Flower says:

    I read this and she called it a four-unit apartment, although it looks like a home. She also made the following comments.

    “For as long as I can remember, I wanted the nostalgic, idyllic lives I’d followed on TV. I loved “The Facts of Life,” “The Golden Girls,” “Grace and Frankie,” and “Gilmore Girls.”

    Serendipitously, one of my closest friends shared my “commune dream,” and she had separated from her husband around the same time I had.

    We called our realtor. “You’re mad,” he said. “I love it.”

    Benefits outweigh drawbacks by a factor of infinity.’

    Déjà vu anyone? The same themes crop up in my research and probably yours too. I notice the focus on nostalgia and how the purported benefits outweigh the drawbacks–referenced in most of the articles that I’ve read. There’s confusion around what cohousing means and is and then there’s the “COMMUNE” reference.

    Then it all goes south and it sounds like the friendship didn’t make for a pretty ending either. The only thing that I could possibly relate too is the realtor saying, “You’re mad,” although I’d live the “I love it,” out of it. I’m not surprised it dissolved in the way it did. Some situations create worse problems for the participants, so there’s that. Imagine losing your life’s savings like the other article in the NYT.

  2. CJ says:

    That’s the part that makes me feel the worst for people – the ones that believe that they will never feel lonely again so they take all their nest egg, and then it doesn’t work out.
    What she describes is more of a commune since they lived and shared a business together.

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