Years ago I read the book by Francis Flagg Fried Green Tomatoes. I loved it all. I recently listened to it on audible. The part I was focusing on was what I wanted cohousing to be like – a newsletter. In the book, the postal office manager writes a weekly bulletin. It’s news from Dot (her name). It’s hilarious. News on what the specials are at the Whistle Stop cafe and goings on in town. There is even a bite from a creature in the toilet. She also complains each time about her husband!
I was hoping we’d have a newsletter like that. Cute news from knowing everyone in our small town.
I also thought we’d be like Lake Wobegon where all the kids would be above average. I know it’s all fiction but it sounded fun. Instead, our children were completely not normal and caused a ton of problems. Toxic behavior that was not developmentally normal and now I see, only reflected the parents own issues. THere were plenty of wonderful children, and families, but like a bag of bad apples, they sure made the whole bag rot through. It still haunts me how it affected the young children who probably won’t even mention it until it comes up in their teenage years or adulthood, in therapy.
I hear lots of people wanting to form communities like in the Golden Girls TV show. We all have to remember, it’s on TV for a reason. I know, I’m a filmmaker. I can control everything that is said, done, and shown in a final cut. It’s for entertainment and barely reflects the reality of human behavior. I used to wish I could brunch with my three other female friends like they always did on Sex in the City. The truth is the four actresses had a working relationship and one had had enough of the whole show and the story lines to not appear in the reboot And Just LIke That.
So, I”ll still laugh at novels, and radio shows but not allow any thought that it could be reality. The only reality I did find at cohousing was like my beloved reality shows – The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills (middle school like girl status fights and rumors) and Sister Wives (how hard it is to make decisions as a group – for them four households and one shared husband).