I Don’t Speak IKEA

I went into an IKEA for the first time ever yesterday.  It is a completely new world and experience. My brother loves it and says he and his young kids spend the whole day there.  I see there is a restaurant and Swedish food (just like in Minnesota and Wisconsin!).  I was just looking for one thing – a chair, which I found right away but had to continue down the yellow brick road, down the elevator, and through another trail until there was a buying area staffed by no one where I would have had to gone to two numbers to pick up the chair at one and a small side table I found at another. I kept going and found a normal looking checkout and was able to buy a bath mat I picked up and put in the cart. Even the bags they let you use they demand back and suggest you buy one at checkout instead.  A complete trap to make you buy, buy, buy. It reminded me of Universal Studios and going through all of Hogwarts castle before you finally reach the Harry Potter ride.  

I will try again but I see I have a huge learning curve. I’ll go again some time and linger.  For now, I’ll try to buy the chair online and just show up for pick up. Plus, I’ll have a friend as back up in ase we need his pick-up truck.

About CJ

I was a Spanish teacher for 5 years in the Public School system in 3 different states. I homeschooled and taught at a democratic free school. I heard about cohousing in 2010 and wanted to move in right away. I met a group building one in 2018 and got to move in the summer of 2019. It only took a year to want out.
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4 Responses to I Don’t Speak IKEA

  1. Flower says:

    I don’t speak IKEA either and their Swedish food I didn’t like–not at all like the Swedish meatballs that I recall. Of course I only tried the meatballs. The store is huge and I’ve only been once and didn’t get through it all. I felt overwhelmed and drained from the experience. My preferences lean towards the eclectic. I appreciate antiques which add personality and warmth when combined with more modern pieces. I love warm and cozy spaces.

    I think it would be nice to know someone who doesn’t mind helping with a pick up truck. One of my neighbors–the alcoholic knocked on my door right before a conference call and wanted me to use my SUV to go get something for her. She practically had a tantrum and I gave in and shouldn’t have. It was right before a conference call–just one of many inappropriate and thoughtless behaviors. I don’t mind helping people occasionally but behaviors like that I don’t appreciate. She made too many demands and didn’t reciprocate. I spent a lot of time avoiding her. Since she died the home has exchanged hands and is now on the third owners. They seem more peaceful.

    I think from dealing with her and others that behave in similar ways I tend to avoid people. I’m overwhelmed as it is and don’t want to have to deal with that kind of crap from anyone. I know it may sound bad, but given those experiences and many others I tend to look at all people as creating problems for me. I don’t tend to see them as enriching my life. That’s why I’ve read up so much on dealing with manipulative and difficult people.

  2. CJ says:

    it is frustrating to have a store all based on needing help. Finding a person to help you with a ticket instead of just pointing to an item and saying you want that. Plus I”m not sure if I can take the chair home or not and may have to rely on the friend with a truck. I haven’t asked them yet and I think I’ve decided not to get the chair anyhow. My aunt is an interior designer and I love her ideas but the inconvenience may not be worth the style.
    The more we meet manipulative and difficult people it does make giving any person a chance less likely.

    • Flower says:

      I get it about inconvenience. I’ve been decluttering my houzz files and I like looking at the site, but I limit looking at design blogs. I think they encourage people to buy and in some ways probably creates more unhappiness–the keeping up with the Joneses mindset. The designs they show are unaffordable for most. I do find inspiration though in the gardening posts. I have lots of love for that and since I grew up by the sea I can’t completely get rid of my “beachy” ways.

      My newer neighbors are moving after not even 3 years. I don’t know why and I can’t believe how much the home is either, but that’s how it’s been going. I don’t think they invested much in the property as the prior owners did most all of the remodel and those people I had more of a relationship with and was sorry to see them leave even though they were not there long either. This couple I didn’t meet until almost a year after they moved in. I think dealing with COVID kept people to themselves. Since cohousing is purportedly about the desire for community with like-minded people it makes me consider my own interactions within my neighborhood, which is a type of community. I consider the different facets and have done quite a bit of research on the topic. I do notice that when there’s a high turnover rate and people don’t stay long it has a huge impact–it does for me anyway and I know there’s research about it. I don’t really include renters because they usually don’t have any vested interest since they don’t own the property and usually they don’t take care of the properties either for that reason. I’m not unkind to people, but I don’t make as much of an effort with them either if I sense it’s a temporary situation and they’re not committed to the property or neighborhood. With the “core” people you tend to feel more of a kinship with because they’ve been around awhile.

  3. CJ says:

    I agree – organizing seems to involve buying more stuff to organize!

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