Tiger King, Elizabeth Holmes (The Drop Out), Narcissists and Me

I’ve been obsessed about narcissists recently – I wonder why?  But they do come in all shapes and sizes. I’ve heard that we are all a bit narcissistic but some take it way over the edge. I feel like our coho was ruined by a few narcissists, or at least people acted like ones at the time.  I also read that business cultures are created by the worse behavior they allow to happen. Our community went pretty low in acceptable behavior, and in my opinion, villainized me for trying to stop it and not even trying to forgive me if they felt I went about it the wrong way.

 Here is what I found in an article about the Tiger King in Psychology Today:

“The narcissist has to appear all-knowing, all-powerful, and always in control because this was their survival skill for how powerless they felt in the past. Self-esteem in children is directly related to parental warmth. In this case, the parent, however, is more interested in their child being “the best.” Warmth and love are conditional, and the child’s sense of self is related to accomplishments.”

Interesting.  Still seems like most Intentional Communities who love to arm chair diagnose people’s childhoods but this Psychology Today so it probably has more research behind it and fascinating why they become who they are.

Another article I found was :

Is Elizabeth Holmes a narcissist? Corey steg below:

https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/2019/03/226401/elizabeth-holmes-narcissistic-boss-personality-traits

They wrote ”Narcissists do silent treatment and won’t get involved in conflict resolution and cause problems and trap people and then toss them away”

It sounds like the people in my community who gave me the silent treatment, even after an outsider mediator tried to help the place.  And one person I asked to talk to about something they said in the meditation and they said no. Then later I felt badly for telling a new person moving in that they said no when I thought part of IC living was to talk through conflicts you’ve been named in. Then they said no again about talking about the first no to talking and then no to talking with a mediator about the no to talking the first time. So, this No, No, No Nanette sounds more “narcissist” above – not interested in conflict resolution.  But also, someone else pointed out in my former community that those that do say no get to walk away feeling like a martyr.

About CJ

I was a Spanish teacher for 5 years in the Public School system in 3 different states. I homeschooled and taught at a democratic free school. I heard about cohousing in 2010 and wanted to move in right away. I met a group building one in 2018 and got to move in the summer of 2019. It only took a year to want out.
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2 Responses to Tiger King, Elizabeth Holmes (The Drop Out), Narcissists and Me

  1. Flower says:

    “But also, someone else pointed out in my former community that those that do say no get to walk away feeling like a martyr.”

    I don’t get that comment. Is that supposed to be a prize. If someone made that comment to me I’d feel dismissed and insulted. Then again I’ve done a lot of research about martyrs.

    I’ve done a lot of research about narcissism. Here’s some good info that I’ve found.

    Dr. Joseph Burgo has written books about shame and narcissism. He has a blog that I used to comment on occasionally. Here’s the link: http://www.afterpsychotherapy.com/

    The Narcissism Epidemic: Living in the Age of Entitlement Paperback – April 13, 2010
    by Jean M. Twenge (Author), W. Keith Campbell (Author). I’d love to see this book updated. Here’s a link: http://www.jeantwenge.com/the-narcissism-epidemic-book-by-dr-jean-twenge/

    She also has articles on psychology today as does Dr. Burgo. Here’s a link to one of her articles about parenting and overindulgence: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-narcissism-epidemic/201205/it-s-not-the-breastfeeding-s-wrong-it-s-the-indulgence

    Also have you ever heard the term communal narcissist? Here’s link:https://www.choosingtherapy.com/communal-narcissism/

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