One aspect of intentional communities is our sex lives. Depending on how close the units are and whether they share walls or not, you may get to know your neighbor’s sex lives. Luckily for me, my unit had the strongest fire wall so it was pretty safe but there was also a consciousness that there were people next door so I kept it quiet. You can’t tell from me writing this but if you ever met me in person you would know that I am not a quiet person, in anything. I talk too loud. I had a job once where every day they said my oic and laugh carried all over the office. I came from a household of 70s music always blasting and everyone speaking on top of each other. My mother used to brag about her loud Italian temper. So, I’m loud everywhere but I had to keep it down in cohousing.
Luckily now I have a lover with a single house and it’s so nice to not have to keep things down. Though, in the past that didn’t always matter. I know there is an apartment building in Sicily that probably still remembers one good night I had. And once I rented a small house and heard rustling outside but didn’t care and was still loud. Burglarize me! Burglarize me! I could care less but later saw what the noise was – a neighbor had seen I was back home from a road trip and wanted to return my dog but must have heard and just put her on the outside leash. We never spoke of that.
Which is true with the cohousing where I lived. I never spoke to the neighbors nor did they about this though some intentional communities do.. Not that I heard anything. But another place down the street that is for sale does have thinner walls and my preteen and their preteen thought it was a gift from the Gods when they heard some sex noises. They giggled about it for days.
Basically, I’m saying it’s nicer to have have sex in the single house!
I”ll post a picture of me in my sexier 20s when I fit into beauty standards better.