The only thing to fear is people who fear conflict

Twice now I have seen people mention they don’t want to discuss something at the monthly meeting because it could create conflict. What???

That sums up my community in a nutshell. So afraid of conflict that they are now scared to discuss anything. Isn’t making group decisions part of cohousing? Now these preemptive strikes against that?

Luckily, one member is an experienced communitarian and forced it on the agenda to discuss an issue that others worried would cause conflict.  It was about forming a policy on parking spaces. It was being a forward thinker. Discuss it before it is a contentious issue. Find a way to divide up the spaces so it is as fair as possible. How many spaces per unit? How far from the door? Etc.  I think once it was discussed people were glad that it did get on the agenda.

I prefer to be proactive.  My reactions aren’t as calm and collected.

About CJ

I was a Spanish teacher for 5 years in the Public School system in 3 different states. I homeschooled and taught at a democratic free school. I heard about cohousing in 2010 and wanted to move in right away. I met a group building one in 2018 and got to move in the summer of 2019. It only took a year to want out.
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