Monthly Archives: January 2022

Question for my readers

Posted on January 21, 2022 by CJ

I’ve been wanting to ask – I’ve been alluding to something happening that made the whole community (or the most vocal ones) shun and hate me. What do you think I did?  (If you are someone I know and are … Continue reading →

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Can you control others?

Posted on January 17, 2022 by CJ

Of course not.  There is a lack of control. It’s not that big a deal until it is. Now in Covid many groups are struggling with those who choose to vaccinate and those who don’t.  And what about the children? … Continue reading →

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Sorry to burst your bubble

Posted on January 17, 2022 by CJ

I”m going to do it.  Discuss the false promises of cohousing.  These are the things commonly promised. They may happen, they may not. Free child care – maybe. If the parents want to arrange that.  But are they good caretakers?  … Continue reading →

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The only thing to fear is people who fear conflict

Posted on January 17, 2022 by CJ

Twice now I have seen people mention they don’t want to discuss something at the monthly meeting because it could create conflict. What??? That sums up my community in a nutshell. So afraid of conflict that they are now scared … Continue reading →

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Good on Paper

Posted on January 17, 2022 by CJ

I recently saw the website of a cohousing that I know is struggling (not mine, for a change). It sounded amazing. Been around awhile. Mentions what they are looking for in a good neighbor. But I know the truth.  They … Continue reading →

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Just coasting

Posted on January 17, 2022 by CJ

I told someone that I should have just not gotten involved with the other neighbors’ lives. I should have just coasted. They chuckled. They were interested in living in cohousing. What’s the point if you don’t get involved? True. I’ve … Continue reading →

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Does intent really matter anymore?

Posted on January 17, 2022 by CJ

This article is fascinating. Yes, we should consider that no one intends to hurt others. But they do. I did.  I didn’t mean to. I wanted to make the community better and get some help.  There are still consequences. People … Continue reading →

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Living in cohousing is like being the President

Posted on January 17, 2022 by CJ

The President has cameras on him 24/7.  Unfortunately I can only write him but someday that’ll change. Even before social media and cell phone cameras, every move was recorded. Whether they fell like President Ford and then Chevy Chase imitated … Continue reading →

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Too much privacy can be dangerous

Posted on January 17, 2022 by CJ

It is a hard line.  What to tell the whole group and what to keep private? When groups are forming and building their cohousing neighborhoods, they are open books. They ask others how they did it and what agreements they … Continue reading →

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What to expect when expecting a mediator to mediate

Posted on January 17, 2022 by CJ

When you hire a mediator you expect someone to come in with experience and humility. Not someone who walks on water and claims to be your savior. They can say they are not expert but just there to give ideas … Continue reading →

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