Things that go bump in the night

I got a thump on my door today – commonly known as a knock.  My shy neighbor wanted to see me. I was shocked. I figured I had bothered him by putting trash bags in the hallway to take away later – since the dog will chomp down into them if we leave them in the house.  

No, I wasn’t in trouble. He apologized but he bumped into my car while backing up yesterday. 

“Is my mirror okay?”

That’s the only thing I cared about. A few scratches no big deal but when I ran into a contractor van last year on the narrow beach streets I knocked out the mirror. Duct tape did fine until I recently went in for inspection and failed. It costs A LOT to replace a rear mirror!

He laughed about the mirror. 

So it’s all good but it made me think of how we bump into neighbors. I like condo living – bumping into neighbors. It’s not just unique to cohousing.

Another neighbor stopped by after getting groceries to see how I was since the loss of our beloved cat.  My dog sniffed his grocery bags and approved of the chicken he bought.

Even in a “regular” neighborhood, I backed up one time, distracted by seeing a hawks nest, and ran over the neighbor’s mailbox. I went over and apologized. He said he always hated that mail box.  His wife had chosen it.   It was a win win. 

After that he and I would talk on the dead end street with many neighbors. It was a very social neighborhood until one woman choose to babysit and got in a “kid” argument over the kid’s behavior with another parent. Business and kids ruined it. I thought that wouldn’t happen in cohousing but I was very wrong.

So, maybe just stick to all pleasure. No business.  Just fun. Or just be smart, unlike me, and realize people are people and super messy.

They may also bump into your car or mail box.

About CJ

I was a Spanish teacher for 5 years in the Public School system in 3 different states. I homeschooled and taught at a democratic free school. I heard about cohousing in 2010 and wanted to move in right away. I met a group building one in 2018 and got to move in the summer of 2019. It only took a year to want out.
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2 Responses to Things that go bump in the night

  1. Flower says:

    “It was a very social neighborhood until one woman choose to babysit and got in a “kid” argument over the kid’s behavior with another parent. Business and kids ruined it.”

    So basically conflict about the kid’s behavior ruined the “socialness” of the neighborhood. I’ll bet these very same types of people complain and whine about how there is no “community” to serve them as well while their behaviors destroy it.

    I wonder if this occurred prior to social media? Now you would have Nextdoor and Farcebook which would exacerbate the situation further more than likely blowing the situation out of proportion. It’s another reason why I don’t bother with social media because it’s far too easy for people to gossip and malign other people or assassinate their character over “perceived” slights and offenses.

    I would never babysit other peoples children due to behaviors like that.

  2. CJ says:

    We were lucky – it was before Facebook. Now I’m “friends” with the woman who started the child care biz and see her on there.
    The most common conflicts in intentional communities, and maybe other neighborhoods, are children, pets, and, not sure what the third is. Money?

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