Google search on challenges of cohousing

I admit it. I’m addicted. The dealer gave me a little and now I can’t do without.  Who is my dealer? Google!  I love my google drive and email so much that now when they shut me out and made me pay, I had to get my fix.  Yet, I’m bitter about it so going through old emails and documents to erase them and make more space.

I found an email called “challenges of cohousing”. I found the article in the spring of 2020 when things were getting difficult but hadn’t reached crisis level.  I know I’ve tried to find articles on the challenges and problems of cohousing since leaving and there are few. When I do find them, I post them here.  I do notice that most brush it aside saying it’s not that big a deal and still worth it. Yes, most people stay through thick and thin but some do leave. Cohousers seem to brush them aside too – it was their problem. They weren’t a good fit.  Yet, I have heard from 2 cohousers this month who were dismayed how selfish and toxic some cohousers can be and are leaving. I still believe everyone needs to know the good and the bad and really look under the roof before you purchase.

On another note, I’m so jealous of the renters who can just take off. One of the other people leaving has to now try to sell their house.  I think they are in a hot market so it might go quickly. My house is in a hot mess so I still have to keep an eye on what is going on. Right now it’s budget season. I didn’t want to hear and see most of the people on zoom but I’m proud of myself.  I didn’t cry after. I didn’t feel beaten down this time. I feel stronger. I had a healing plan and it’s working. Blog, create, get it out of my system.  It’s starting to feel like it was just a blip in my life. It’s like that one relationship which was a crazy year and then over.  Time heals all wounds, even the pain of being chased out of cohousing with pitchforks and fire (many toxic groups love to scapegoat!)

Here are the links to the posts I found under “challenges of cohousing”:

http://oldsite.cohousing.org/sites/default/files/attachments/survey_of_cohousing_communities_2011.pdf

About CJ

I was a Spanish teacher for 5 years in the Public School system in 3 different states. I homeschooled and taught at a democratic free school. I heard about cohousing in 2010 and wanted to move in right away. I met a group building one in 2018 and got to move in the summer of 2019. It only took a year to want out.
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