Monthly Archives: September 2021

small town knows all – all your faults and foibles

It finally happened. I’ve been living in small towns and my kids have been growing up there.  A teacher I”m co-teaching a class with me figured out she taught my son a few years ago.  It’s not the biggest deal … Continue reading

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Want community, get a dog!

Dogs always bring people together. Okay, in cohousing they can cause problems with barking and bites, but besides that, they are a great way to meet people. My dog jumped on someone once outside of a video store (Dating myself … Continue reading

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Made for TV community – ecovillage Dancing Rabbit

I have heard good things about the ecovillage Dancing Rabbit. It’s doing well. Unfortunately, it’s not a continual community. The way it is set up – in rural Missouri, many people have to move on for work or what not.  … Continue reading

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Lesbian Drama

I have heard of lesbian drama but I haven’t experienced it much.I had great experiences in lesbian women groups in my 20s. I thought living in cohousing would be similar to that sense of community. Now I see that was … Continue reading

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Fences make good neighbors – boundaries are good, even in cohousing, intentional communities.

This article caught my attention. I recently did work interviews and like it when they say they are a family. I hadn’t thought of the flip side – it could be an abuse of your time and boundaries. Obviously, people … Continue reading

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Gambling on cohousing

When you buy a house in cohousing, you are taking a roll of the dice.  Like any housing, the prices could go up or down.  You also are gambling that this community will be the cohousing you dreamed of.  Of … Continue reading

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Cohousing is not family!

One of my pet peeves is when people compare cohousing to being in a family.  Some families are awful!  Of course, everyone tries their best, but some have so many issues.  We have all met people who have left their … Continue reading

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You gotta have friends – but they might not be in cohousing

Like I said in a previous post, friendship is not guaranteed at cohousing. Of course everyone will be friendly and you’ll know each other’s name. If It’s a small cohousing – like less than 13 units, I’ve heard that cliques … Continue reading

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Raising kids in cohousing – again

There is probably no bigger issue than children in cohousing. Many people want to live in cohousing because it looks like a wonderful place to raise children. That’s what I thought too.  And it can be but some things to … Continue reading

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Cohousing is like marriage

I have heard many cohousers compare cohousing to marriage. It is true! Like marriage, no one can explain to you what it is really like. They also don’t tend to.  It depends on each couple anyhow and there are over … Continue reading

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