Divorce Divides

Divorce is never fun. Many neighborhoods have seen half or the whole household move away due to divorce. I’m in shock and sad to find out the couple I have come to know very well this year is splitting up.  Okay, it wasn’t the biggest surprise. I happily enjoyed the knocks on my door for technical help on Facebook and did see that she was talking to other men all over the world so it’s not that surprising that they were no longer happy together.  She did have the choice to be with a partner in New Zealand so I guess I”m lucky that she chose someone in the US instead so I can visit some day.  Plus, it’s a state with lots of cohousing communities I could visit!

I’m also sad that the dog will be leaving too.  Worse, not to either one of them. To a rescue. I love the little dog. I wish I could take her in but my son doesn’t think our dog would appreciate that and since his chore is pet duty, I need to honor that. I”ll miss the little dog too!

Most people are happy in communities and don’t leave if it’s healthy. However, breakups do happen.  I also know of a woman who was the social life center at the place I rented before moving here. She’s moving out for the opposite reason. She was single but met a man and now they are building a house together.  She’s only going down the street so she’ll still be the life of the party and part of her party crowd here at the beach.

I would love a community where everyone stays and we all form deeper relationships but even in cohousing, nothing is guaranteed. People do move for one reason or another. I guess it’s like any love story – it’s better to have lost in love than never to have loved at all. We give our heart out and form relationships and they run their course and we all grow from it.

And Your Little Dog Too…… – The Science Dog

About CJ

I was a Spanish teacher for 5 years in the Public School system in 3 different states. I homeschooled and taught at a democratic free school. I heard about cohousing in 2010 and wanted to move in right away. I met a group building one in 2018 and got to move in the summer of 2019. It only took a year to want out.
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