Fences make good neighbors – boundaries are good, even in cohousing, intentional communities.

This article caught my attention. I recently did work interviews and like it when they say they are a family. I hadn’t thought of the flip side – it could be an abuse of your time and boundaries.

Obviously, people want to know their neighbors in cohousing. That’s the whole point. But boundaries are still good.  

At our mediation time, one member was trying to get another member to talk about something she didn’t want to. The mediator said, “she has boundaries.”

When I thought about that later it cracked me up. Shouldn’t we all have boundaries?  We all shouldn’t have privacy and some places that you don’t want to share with the group? Why isn’t it okay to go along with the group, especially if you think they are going in a very wrong direction?

Here is the article:


About CJ

I was a Spanish teacher for 5 years in the Public School system in 3 different states. I homeschooled and taught at a democratic free school. I heard about cohousing in 2010 and wanted to move in right away. I met a group building one in 2018 and got to move in the summer of 2019. It only took a year to want out.
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