Apparently when people look at a house to move into, they imagine themselves living an ideal life. They will be de-cluttered. The house will always be clean and ordered. That is one reason, curb appeal is so important when selling a house. Buyers can’t imagine things, they have to see it. It has to be beautiful inside and out. All repairs done and move in ready. No family pictures because it will be for their family now. You get the drift.
I heard this and realized I was doing the same thing. I was going to be my ideal self when I moved into cohousing. A brand new house. That was a sweet gift. I loved all the newness. I tried to declutter but it was still stuffed to the gills and is an ongoing issue. Anyone who has emptied a deceased family member’s house would understand how much stuff ends up in your own home. I dreamed of using the punch bowl my mother had. It ends up, punch bowls aren’t a big part of my life so I gave that away. Also, in cohousing I didn’t need a lot of guest hosting materials since guests stay at the common house and dinners are held their for the community so all I did was bring a pretty fish platter one time. I gave away a lot of those dishes away too because I also realized I’m not much of a host. However, that was before moving to the beach where I have lots of visitors. We get by and I prefer less stuff.
I also imagined myself never watching TV again unless it was social. I wanted it to be like my time in Mexico where we all watched the soap operas together. That didn’t pan out. The Superbowl party was meh for me (probably because I only like the ads and didn’t like the halftime show that year) and Oscars we were too social and talked over it. I ended up getting a TV anyways so I could watch Beverly Hills Housewives (which no one shared my affinity) and to have an Internet back up when COVID hit and I went online for work.
I also thought I”d go all organic and vegan like some neighbors. Nope. My meat lasagna was very popular at the New Year’s party. I envisioned exercising more. That happened once I became an outcast!
The truth is each new move is a chance to start some new habits. I have heard that. It may not be perfect, but moving to a new house or place is a change and a chance to make more.