The New Way to Parent – not

There is a new way to parent – not parenting. I think parents are reacting to their helicopter parents so some just push their kids out of the nest as soon as they can fly, or even younger.  Apparently, this holiday weekend, lifeguards pulled out 70 people out of the water. That’s their job.  Unfortunately, they also had to look for 130 kids who were lost, almost all on the Fourth of July alone. How is that possible? One or two families losing a kid, that seems normal. But over one hundred? What they heck is going on?

The first time I brought my oldest to the beach (after he could walk – we went before he could crawl). It was just me, him, and the dog and all the stuff. He took a bee line for the ocean. I almost died. I could just imagine the ocean swallowing his one year and half old body up.  I didn’t know what to do – let the dog go, grab him, drop all the stuff.  Luckily a lady saw me suffering and took the dog and I scooped up my son.  I watched him the whole time, of course. How could anyone look away when there is a place that has to pull 70 people out of the currents?  If the kids are older, you can explain where they can play or not, and maybe one or two could wander off. But over 100?  

When I was 12 I one time got lost. I ran down the steps of a mall and got off on the  bottom floor not knowing my mother was getting off on the second floor. I felt scared being lost but was old enough to figure it out.  I went to lost and found and they made an announcement for her and she laughed to find me there.  

My guys are old enough for me to tell them where they can go or not. But at the beach I watch since I know the water can be treacherous and we sit by the lifeguard. So, I can’t figure out how so many kids got lost.  And the news reported that it took lifeguards’ eyes off the water and their real job.

I saw this in cohousing. Some modern parents feel like cohousing means their kids get free range. And if others complain about their behavior (and parents lack of explaining appropriate behavior) it’s blame the victim season. Some seem to take the phrase – it takes a village to mean “Here village. Take my child”.

We all have to learn to live together and compromise in cohousing.  That means children need to learn too. And adults can compromise and hear some kid noise.  But making lifeguards find your kids cause you are too drunk or too free range is unfair to those who need water rescues!

About CJ

I was a Spanish teacher for 5 years in the Public School system in 3 different states. I homeschooled and taught at a democratic free school. I heard about cohousing in 2010 and wanted to move in right away. I met a group building one in 2018 and got to move in the summer of 2019. It only took a year to want out.
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