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Monthly Archives: July 2021
Safe in a gated community and/or cohousing
I visited a cohousing recently and I asked my usual questions. I want to know how it’s gone since forming. They had a rough time for awhile, but a few families moved out, and things have been smooth ever since. … Continue reading
shame and ashamed
Shame is a horrible feeling and something terrible to put onto someone. Looking back I did feel embarrassed by some front porches. Mine included. Toys and stuff everywhere. I figured we were just living in them and that’s a good … Continue reading
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The Dark Side of Cohousing
It happened again. I read an article where cohousing is the fix to everything. No more loneliness. No more children without play dates. Sounds like cohousing cures everything, maybe even cancer! What people don’t think is what if the opposite … Continue reading
codependency in cohousing?
I was talking to someone who has lived in cohousing for over 20 years. I asked what do you do about the people with troubling behavior. People who seem to have something like a personality disorder. I’m not saying it’s … Continue reading
Don’t tell me what to do with the days of our lives
Wikipedia gives this physiological definition of reactance: Reactance is an unpleasant motivational arousal (reaction) to offers, persons, rules, or regulations that threaten or eliminate specific behavioral freedoms. Reactance occurs when a person feels that someone or something is taking away … Continue reading
I love you but I don’t want to live with you
One clue that cohousing may be difficult is examples of how much you love your friends, and family, but how hard it is to share a space with them. Ever been on that road trip where you questioned your relationship? … Continue reading
Watch where you step in cohousing
There are things I learned while living in cohousing. One is my fear of conflict. Like most people, I was a little conflict averse but I went in knowing we would have to deal with it to build a strong … Continue reading
Can cohousing fail?
I wonder this from time to time. Many cohousing groups never get the place built for many reasons – money, not finding appropriate land, money, not having enough people, money, not having enough time/energy, money, etc. But if the houses … Continue reading
The Cooperative Culture Handbook book review
I was so excited to get the book The Cooperative Culture Handbook: A social Change Manual to Dismantle Toxic Culture and Build Connection by Yan a Ludwig and Karen Gimnig. Maybe I”m too jaded and now have a deep mistrust … Continue reading
You can’t handle the truth – fascism and cohousing
Another book I read this year is Trumpocracy by David Frum. I know the Trump Era is over, kinda, but I still had a few books I hadn’t read. What I liked in this book is how he talks about … Continue reading