How to Humanize and not shun and create community

It looks like most people in intentional communities and cohousing agree that shunning is not something they want anyone to do. It seems childish and against the idea of creating a community.

So what do you do when one or more people in your community do this?

Do we need lessons on how to treat other humans?

  1. Make eye contact
  2. Say hello (that doesn’t mean you agree with anything or everything they have done – it just acknowledges that they are a human)
  3. Make small talk or niceties if need be – even by email
  4. Answer their questions and emails – don’t act like nothing was said

It seems simple. You can work with your anger or reasons to push someone away later but just being polite can help build the community. It also can help that others won’t treat like you’ve treated them.

About CJ

I was a Spanish teacher for 5 years in the Public School system in 3 different states. I homeschooled and taught at a democratic free school. I heard about cohousing in 2010 and wanted to move in right away. I met a group building one in 2018 and got to move in the summer of 2019. It only took a year to want out.
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