Monthly Archives: May 2021

The Last Holiday

Posted on May 31, 2021 by CJ

Here is a blog idea I had while I was still living there – it’s still negative.  I was starting to see some patterns. I noticed how hard it is to give up control to other people. I was on … Continue reading →

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Uber? Taxi? Lyft? Or Cohousing Neighbor?

Posted on May 28, 2021 by CJ

One of the arguments I hear for cohousing is the fact that your neighbors can give you a lift.  Yes, that’s true. I drove a few people to their car appointments and vice versa.  One neighbor even brought me to … Continue reading →

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I love you but not cohousing

Posted on May 27, 2021 by CJ

Many a relationship has been strained by cohousing.  The heterosexual stereotype goes that women fall in love with cohousing, convince their husbands, and then sometimes they both move in and love it.  Then there are the couples that can’t agree … Continue reading →

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Falling for fakeness in the movies and on TV

Posted on May 27, 2021 by CJ

I have heard a few people compare living in a community to being in a marriage.  One way that is true is how it is portrayed in media.  Many romance movies end with a kiss. That’s it.  We assume it … Continue reading →

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Control Freak Out

Posted on May 25, 2021 by CJ

First impressions are lasting. I always dreamed of living in an intentional community. I had only heard of communes though the word Eco Village did float around but I never looked into them – I guess I figured they were … Continue reading →

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Snowball OUT of hell

Posted on May 25, 2021 by CJ

I was helping a student a few months ago with George Orwell’s Animal Farm.  I recently went back over my notes and I realized I hadn’t finished the book so I did. Somehow we made it through most and I … Continue reading →

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Trailer Park Etiquette

Posted on May 24, 2021 by CJ

I hate stereotypes about trailers and people who live in trailers. I’ve lived in one, twice.  I have friends who live in trailers.  I once heard a white male talk about “trailer trash” and I just wanted to scream –  … Continue reading →

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Matt Damon, cohousing, movies about neighborhoods

Posted on May 24, 2021 by CJ

I’m always on the look out for movies about neighbors and how our country thinks about neighborhoods and communities. Originally it was to hold movie nights.  I did get to host one. Funny Farm with Chevy Chase I thought of … Continue reading →

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Hijackers in cohousing and intentional communities

Posted on May 21, 2021 by CJ

I think every cohousing community is hijacked by at least one person. It could be someone who demands all the sympathy, attention, or makes all the decisions.  Maybe they have to okay something before it’s on the plenary agenda or … Continue reading →

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Not Ok for children

Posted on May 21, 2021 by CJ

I was just looking through my emails and found one from when COVID began. My son loved game night at the cohousing. Well, both sons liked it and suddenly it turned to online games. My 15 year old who is … Continue reading →

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