I just had a wonderful conversation with Ted J. Rau. He has been raising his five children in cohousing and agreed to be my first podcast interviewee. I have to learn more about the technology but I hope it will sound okay being recorded off of a computer.
He is a consultant on sociocracy and governance for schools and cohousing communities and anyone else interested. He has at least two books published: Who Decides Who: How to Start a Group so Everyone has a Voice and Many Voices One Song: Shared Power with Sociocracy. I will share the links.
In his experience, he wanted to raise his children in cohousing so they could know other adults. I find that interesting since most people want their children to play with other children in cohousing and that’s the motivation. We lost one family, in part, because another family with a child the same age couldn’t move in so they never moved in either.
I did love the fact that my children knew all the adults by name and even what some of their interests were.
I will post the interview but another good piece of information is that they include children in discussions on common grounds and noise level at common houses. So true – the offenders are not always children. The children and adults are learning and using Nonviolent Communication (NVC). In fact, one of his neighbors trains children. That’s what I had started – teaching the children NVC just as I was learning. I was looking for material and now I have that too – Gina Simm’s website – teaching from the heart.
I am thankful to hear of their community. He also said that their community started in 1994 so they have seen children grow up and a new “crop” come along so they are good at this. That’s hopeful for new communities!