Passion Less Fish and Jerry Maguire’s polite fish

When I would do a unit on biology I would find as many fun hands on things to do and one favorite of the kids was a fortune telling fish. You put it on your palm and it will move according to your feelings of love – in love, jealousy, or passionless.  (It really uses your salt molecules but the kids would laugh at the results).

Kipp Brothers Fortune Teller Fish, One Bag of 144 PCS

I have been thinking about communities and their leadership or lack thereof.  Ours has a huge void.  Most seem to prefer to hide, pretend it doesn’t exist, or wait for others to solve it.  That’s the problem – no one is taking the lead.  So, what happens when they are passion less fish?  We know there are tons of cohousing groups that don’t get off the ground (Or dig in the ground to be exact).  Plenty of reasons why but it’s hard to get a group that can sustain themselves and keep the passion alive to make the place a reality.  Once the place is built, it could suffer from founder’s syndrome and the power balance is off and fractions occur.

My community felt like Jerry Maguire film to me.  He is a sports’ agent and he has a vision to focus on less clients which gets him fired from his soulless huge company. As he’s leaving, he gives a speech about treating people with respect and points to the fish – that they do this, “the fish have manners”.  He takes the fish (which is hilarious).  He asks who is with him and one woman believes in him.

The part that reminds me of my community is in the end.  The office is quiet, they watch the visionary as he and his follower enter the elevator and then once the elevator door bings and is shut, they go back to work like nothing ever happened. That’s how I felt. I brought up a concern. I try to help. I try to share information from those who have created communities but I think they are just happy to go back to work as usual.  At least the movie makes me laugh every time.

Here are two clips.  One has his whole monologue but cuts off before the elevator shuts. The other is a remix (which did NOT happen in the movie) but it does show the office’s reaction.  Enjoy.

P.S. Spoiler alert – in the end, he makes an agency with fewer clients who are happy and healthy and more sport stars decide they want that. I have an actor friend who dreams to have an agent like Jerry Maguire. I’d like that too – a writer’s agent, come to think of it.

About CJ

I was a Spanish teacher for 5 years in the Public School system in 3 different states. I homeschooled and taught at a democratic free school. I heard about cohousing in 2010 and wanted to move in right away. I met a group building one in 2018 and got to move in the summer of 2019. It only took a year to want out.
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