WHY I HATE COHOUSING – a list that I will keep adding to – already more than 10

(hate is a harsh word but I want to balance out all the PR that always shows the happy side)

  1. Most people move in thinking it’s the last house they will ever buy so they may be less into being affordable units for all and into creature comforts
  2. Lack of racial and economic diversity in most
  3. Most say they like  cohousing to be with “like minded people” which can be suspicious.  When push comes to shove, do you really have the same values? Or more all want community but ideas of what that mean can vary.
  4. Expensive houses
  5. Smaller houses
  6. Super hard to sell your house in most markets
  7. Realtors can’t figure out how to sell the house in most markets
  8. Dependent on the very cohousers that drive you crazy to sell your house – marketing committee. What if they don’t work very hard? Or haven’t figured out if you owe them a commission or not?
  9. Bias towards renters. Fears of renters those most tend to take care of their houses and be more into cohousing than some of the owners.
  10. Needing to get everyone’s opinion on EVERYTHING. Large and small. 
  11. Doing anything takes a long time.  Patience is a must.
  12. Balancing other life commitments and cohousing. Running a multi million housing complex takes time and many find they have less time for activism, volunteerism, and anything outside of cohousing.
  13. The cohousing echo chamber. Bubble.
  14. The way cohousers seem to feel superior to others. We live here. We live better than all those lonely people out there.  
  15. The way cohousers seem to think only certain people can survive and those who leave have something wrong with them.  Couldn’t share or compromise. When it could be the opposite – didn’t want to live with those who weren’t sharing or compromising.

About CJ

I was a Spanish teacher for 5 years in the Public School system in 3 different states. I homeschooled and taught at a democratic free school. I heard about cohousing in 2010 and wanted to move in right away. I met a group building one in 2018 and got to move in the summer of 2019. It only took a year to want out.
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