Living with Weirdos – are you a good fit for cohousing part 2

So I have been thinking about how people react to cohousing.  Very few are so excited that they are jealous of those that are in it. That’s how I felt – jealous of those who had a cohousing up and running near them and could move in. I had to wait and then I got in and felt lucky.  But some people would deliver furniture, or fix pipes, or whatnot and visit the community.  I remember one guy saying he just moved to the country. He didn’t like even having normal neighbors. I thought, “poor guy, no community.”

Now I see how people are jealous of me (Not that that is my goal just an indicator of the culture).  I post pictures of my condo near the beach.  People say – “post more pics”, “I wish I lived on the beach”, etc.  But when I lived in cohousing no one wrote – “Wow, I wish I lived so close to so many people.  I wish I lived with a bunch of weirdos.”

Now, I”m a weirdo too. That’s why I moved in. But I didn’t realize that some could be way weirder than me. And none of my friends nor family told me what they really thought – being so close can cause trouble if there are real problems. I found out  the hard way – dark weirdos, scary weirdos.

 Now I enjoy my new neighbors – a large pod of dolphins!!!!

About CJ

I was a Spanish teacher for 5 years in the Public School system in 3 different states. I homeschooled and taught at a democratic free school. I heard about cohousing in 2010 and wanted to move in right away. I met a group building one in 2018 and got to move in the summer of 2019. It only took a year to want out.
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2 Responses to Living with Weirdos – are you a good fit for cohousing part 2

  1. Flower says:

    “Now I enjoy my new neighbors – a large pod of dolphins!!!!”

    A pod of dolphins would be wonderful neighbors. I’m certain people would consider me a weirdo because of that preference. The fact is I no longer care if they do. I’m more of a loner and enjoy my privacy. I’ve had difficulty finding my “tribe” so-to-speak, but the difference for me now is that I don’t tend to care and am not out searching. I would feel that I have to be someone that I’m not and give up too much of myself to belong and it isn’t worth it to me. I have a strong aversion to groups that I learned when I was very young. I don’t care to jump through other peoples hoops. That’s not a path to happiness. I also don’t know what “normal” neighbors are–maybe the poor hapless creatures that live in the soulless suburbia, like me. Yet the fact is I’m fairly content to live where I do.

    I grew up close to the ocean. When I lived by the sea I loved to watch the pelicans, the seals and the whales. In a town where I used to live sometimes we’d fall asleep to the sounds of the surf and the occasional foghorn. I have good memories. I wanted to be a marine biologist, but changed my major to environmental. High density along the coast can feel overwhelming too.in some areas too.

  2. CJ says:

    I also wanted to be a marine biologist but did realize I get sick on boats! Luckily, the past few years I have done marine biology professional developments for teachers and have learned a lot. I just wish I could call on one with all my questions when I see the animal behaviors in the water. I love seeing pelicans – I don’t ever remember seeing them in the past. I think they’ve made a comeback or I never looked up and swam all the time as a kid.

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